I am madly in love. The woman I love knows I have feelings for her (I have never used the L word with her) but does not feel the same way. I can accept this (though that wouldnt make me give up hope) but the problem is that she feels awkward around me, and she has anxiety issues, which means she now feels the need to avoid me. However, we have to see each other and interact (in a group) at least 2 or 3 times a week, and we share the same friends. This makes the situation extremely painful for both of us. I have tried to talk with her and see if we could find a solution, but she thinks avoidance is the answer. But I dont think it is possible, and that we must deal with the underlying issue of the awkwardness. We cant escape each other, ignoring each other doesnt work, and I can't solve the problem without her help. She doesnt want to deal with it directly, and seems to think (she rarely says what she really thinks) that it's all a way for me to win her over. Any advice or am I doomed?
2007-02-20 10:14:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, I should clarify this a bit:
1) I do know her, I have known her for years.
2) yes, she has issues. I am well aware of them and I know just how much trouble they can cause.
3) I am not asking if I have chance at a romantic relationship, I am asking if anyone has any advice about resolving this situation.
4) Simply avoiding her is not possible, because we have to see each other several times a week.
2007-02-20 11:57:14 · update #1
maybe she is not ready for any relationship..what can you do just be patient, she is not comfortable with you maybe..give her some time to get to know you..good luck
2007-02-20 10:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Princess G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK darlin' you simply cannot be in love with someone you do not KNOW. You don't know her and she's afraid to show you. Your eyes have sought out the heart's desire. She may not be the one. If she has serious anxiety she has more problems than you can help with. There are meds for this, I am a psychiatric social worker. If she say avoid me, avoid her. She knows.
2007-02-20 10:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mentally unbalanced women do not make for good choices in long term, stable relationships. She sounds quite disturbed. Move on.
2007-02-20 10:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just have sex and move on,Don't get involved with these goofy women.
2007-02-28 00:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by dcam47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋