Why is moving so stressful?

Question

My family and I moved recently, its me, my husband and our 2 little kids....we have been so stressed out, tired and constantly bickering, isn't moving into a new place supposed to be exciting? Why are we so damn stressed out?

Answer 1

Because there's so much to do. Packing, unpacking, new neighborhood, new neighbors, getting things organized & situated in the new house...
And change is very stressful for some people no matter how exciting it is.

Answer 2

Moving is actually up there in the top 10 most stressful things to do in life!!! I try and look at our family as a plant when we move. If you transplant a plant, they get stressed and even wilt a little. After a few weeks they settle in and grow stronger than before.

Here is a story that might cheer you up a bit!!!!

We were renting a house for 4 years when we decided to get married at home. I called the landlord in January and asked him if there was anything in the foreseeable future that would require us having to move. He assured me that we were very secure at the house and to go ahead and plan our dream day.....Okay so in September he shows up 14 days before our wedding and tell us we have 21 days to MOVE OUT!!! (wanted the house for his son to move into!!) We had 120 people coming and with 3 kids in toe we decided to have the wedding there 1 week before we moved out. We were 1/2 packed on the day!! So I was literally having a dress fitting at 10.00am then being shown a new house at 10.30am..........What a fortnight of mixed emotions I tell you!!!! We have moved twice since then and it doesn't faze me at all. At least I'm not getting married next week!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hope you feel better after reading my little story! You will be fine soon!

Answer 3

I relocated to a new state less than six months ago. I'm STILL trying to tie up loose ends! Part of the stress is customer service STINKS these days. It took a month to get my mail forwarded properly. I had to fire the phone company BELL SOUTH when they screwed up my order, didn't have the services they promised available in my area, wanted ME to send back equipment and THEN repeatedly billed me for less than 3 days of connection. ARRRRGH!
I contact agencies by letter (phone means nothing) and I still have to follow up with more letters and phone calls to effect transfers of important business (ie) insurance, pension, etc.
The moving company damaged some of my things and then denied it. More hassle if I choose to file a claim. My word against theirs, needless to say I'd never use ALLIED VAN LINES again.
Moving is stressful because it involves a lot of mental and physical labor and you wlll be working with chimps in a lot of cases to get things done.
Then there is unpacking, arranging, cleaning, etc., aclimating yourself to new surroundings, and in my case a new job too.
Take it easy. Take your time unpacking or just devote a couple of hours a day to the process.
In time things will settle down. That's what I keep promising myself. Take some time out to play. Now that I've finished all my orientation (24 hours of professional development!) I'm going to do just that.
Take the family out for a ride around the new neighborhood. Go on a scavenger hunt to find short cuts and businesses you will need in the future. Whoever spots something first gets points! Rent a DVD and just take the night or weekend off from the process.
Enjoy your new home. You'll eventually get settled.

Answer 4

Are you trying to get away from something and moving is the answer, or was the move supposed to be life changing? I have moved many times in my life,both with twins(they were 1)and with my daughter twenty years later. It was fun when I moved with my daughter somewhat recently,we were both looking to make changes in our lives and it was just plain fun! Even job hunting,because I wasn't hung up on white collar,I was willing to be a motel maid(still am)and enjoy a life less cluttered with owning things. Sold my home,and just left. When I moved in my early twenties with twins,that was stressful because there wasn't much money,bills were following us,he had child support issues,so it wasn't fun and turned into a disaster with divorce following 2years later. You might be expecting things from eachother,but you aren't saying them out loud,so you get kind of resentfull cuz you think the person should know how you are feeling,afterall,you have children together,and you did agree to move. Just let her hang for awhile,nothing is that important that it can't wait until you two are at the same playing level. Good luck and enjoy that new place.

Answer 5

I hear you! We are getting ready to move this weekend, with 3 kids, ages 6, 4, and 2. Its exciting, but its still stressful probably because its so much work.

Answer 6

It will be exciting. Remember, you just packed moved and unpacked everything the four of you possess, that's a lot of work for you guys! I'm sure everything's not in the exact place you want it yet. Here's an idea, why don't you guy's jump in the car, go to a new restaraunt and then hit the movies! Let everything sit for one night, don't worry, it will still be there tomorrow! Lots of luck in your new abode!!

Answer 7

yeah i understand i moved like 5 times in all my life, and well it's exciting when you already move and everything is organize in the new house, but it takes a lot of work, first pack, then rent a truck, then unpack have to be carfule with the expesive things, then put everything in it's place, and it takes days, but at the end you enjoy it.
good luck and congrats !

Answer 8

I moved my family out of city and we were so stressed for about the first 6 months. every now and then, we do still cry and it helps. the stress is becasue of all the "what ifs" and the "how comes" moving involves a lot of both.

Answer 9

Take a few hours with the family and go out and enjoy your new area.

Change the vibration with music, aroma and bring some laughter into your life.

Answer 10

maybe because you miss your old home or because just living in a new town or neighborhood is hard. I mean, if you move to a new house that is in another city/town/state then maybe you are homesick. Maybe you just miss all the other people in your old neighborhood.