Why wouldn't he give me an explanation?

Question

My boyfriend of five months just stopped stopped talkin to me about 2 months ago. we technically didn't break up because he never told me anything. We are both 24 now and we dated back when we were 16. We have known each other for a while. We did get back in contact last may and that is when we started things back up. I don't know how it happened but we still had feelings for each other after all those years. Even though our love was stronger this time, we started having lots of problems. We fought a lot and I wanted to change him because, well that is just something I did because there were things he did that I didnt like. He smoked weed and I wantd him to stop and he didn't really want to. Ok so the last 2 months of our relationship were really hard. We gradually did become distant, but I never thought he would break up without a explanation. He did reply to one text and told me he missed me too. He had a sad face out beside it. He said he would write back never could. I am just lost

He was very jealous over me and let me say he wasn't like this in our first relationship ( at 16). He became like this after I told him about something I did in my past. It got worst. This was abig problem in our relationship besides him smokin weed. It is a bit complex but we always had this fire. Even though we were complete opposites, we always managed to care about each other. I mean that is how we managed to still have feelings for each other after 4 years. I do obsess over him meeting someone else, but I feel it is more than that. I told him about 2 weeks before we broke up(or stopped talking) that i was suicidal and he said that made him want to just leave my lfie totally cuz he felt he was the cause. I mean I don't know if this is why he stopped talking to me but there is so much i am unsure about. I mean he kept telling me he would write me back, because I had emailed him asking him to email me back. He never did though. I wish I could move on or hate him, but I can't.

There isn't enough room to say all I need to say. I don't know if i can get a accurate answer. all i know is that we both have myspaces and he took all my friends off his myspace... I guess hewants me totally out of his life. I did say a lot of things to him after he said he couldnt come see me for christmas. I was just soooo mad. I mean how can someone you known for so long just stop talkin to you. I know he loved me and I know that there isn't someone out there better. I don't mean to sound conceited but I was a overall good girl. I didn't do drugs, I was loyal. I mean he thought i wanted to change him because I wanted him to stop smoking weed. the only thing I hold onto is that he tol dmehe missed me. That is all i have. =(

Answer 1

It's not uncommon for two people who had loved each other so much to abruptly stop talking to each other and immediately become very distant to each other. That happened to me and my previous fiancee' We were very close until we broke up. It was as if I was never in her life in just a couple days. Not a phone call. Not an E-mail or anything. It was VERY shocking to me, but it was also for the better.

She had cheated on me, which I found out about and subsequentally caused the break up. I found out later that she had cheated on me often, and the smart thing for her to do was to stay as far away from me as she could. At the least, I would have been very angry with her.

Perhaps your boyfriend is doing something similar. His problems might be bigger than he wants you to know, and it would be best to sever all ties with you instead of providing the opportunity for you to find out. No matter what the reason, it's best that you move on anyway. You don't want to play secodn fiddle to a bong hit.

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

Cut your losses and move toward the future. You would have never been happy being controlled, eventually it loses its luster and that "He just wants me for him" feeling and becomes unbearable. Now is the time to work on yourself and not define yourself by your relationship, you are young and free. Take advantage of what you have been through and learn from it, that way when a winner comes along you will be more aware that it is there.

Answer 3

I had a bf who was a little like yours (back to your problem) i would recommend you to keep your mind busy so you can stop thinking about him, and stop e-mailing him and don't try to hate him it is not good for you just remember that every one has a choice and he chose to stay away from u respect that and with time you will feel much better

Answer 4

Potheads are really in love with only one thing: THE WEED

Answer 5

You should not try to change people. If you love them accept them all bad habits included. If you can't don't miss lead them. Girls want to change guys. Either except them or don't play with them.

Answer 6

because he smokes weed and isn't living in the real world.

Answer 7

he wont because he doesnt care ! he doesnt think its important and hopfully you will forget ! that what guys do !!!!!!!!!!