but my problem is that when I am with him i feel perfect and very lucky, but when I'm not with him I start to doubt my feelings for him. Should I break it off and leave somewhere to see if I am really in love with this man? He really loves me, and I want to love him as much, and more! thank you
2007-02-20 10:01:34 · 12 answers · asked by victoria_b_maria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're doubting it, you might not be ready for such a commitment with him... I think you should take time to think about it by yourself... if he loves you as much as you say, he should understand.
2007-02-20 10:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you doubt about your feelings when you're away from him. Do you doubt he's the one for you? Do you doubt you will be happy with him? I don't think you need to break things off with him, but find the source of your doubts. Just because you're engaged does not mean you have to get married tomorrow. Take the time you need to find what you want and to make sure it's right. I once was told in order to know how much you really love someone you need to be away from them for a while. It wouldn't hurt to take a vacation. Or even just spend time away from him where you are. You'll figure it out in time. Don't rush it if it doesn't feel right. Hope this helps! Good luck to you!
2007-02-20 18:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by Legs0891 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrige should be a life long commitment. It's normal to have cold feet befoe getting married. But you really need to do some soul searching before you say " I Do" are you doubtful because your thinking about someone else? Do you just not want to lose your freedom?
Love has it's highs and lows. No marriage is perfect by any means. In fact it starts to get harder once you have a family. You have to really work and your relationship. There is no happly ever after. You don't just get married and tada everything is like the movies. Make sure this is really what you want and he is really the one you want to spend you life with.
2007-02-20 18:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by Danisha R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you're absolutely sure before taking a step like marriage. My ex wife and I married after only dating a year. Big mistake on both of our parts. We divorced a year later but we're still good friends to this day. The time will be right when you don't have to think about it or have any doubts at all. If that time never comes then you both should move on. Just take time because I'll tell you from experience that the loneliest place on Earth is a bad marriage. Good luck to you.
2007-02-20 18:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by clayp72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you breaking it off, try to put your mind and feelings in the right way. Spend some time alone and talk to others to help you too.
I am sure if you both are mean to each other, your feelings for him will grow too and you will love him the same way he does. Be patient, be calm and let the time and the fate help you.
You will find the answer you are looking for. Nothing that happens in our life is in vain.
I wish you blessings and joy to your life.
2007-02-20 18:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't leave him because if you do he might let you back even if you wanted to go back. think for a minute can you imagine your life without him. because if you can't then you're in love remember when you get married that's the time when you really get to know that person. if you break it off you'll never get to really know him. you'll miss out on a lot of great things. them you'll sit there wishing you would have married him. take sometime to think don't break it off. and don't tell him you need time to think it will break his heart just when ever you're alone think about how you life would be without him
2007-02-20 18:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before getting married or breaking it off, get some premarital counseling to see how serious an endeavor marriage is.
2007-02-20 18:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem a little confused. Perhaps when you are away from him you are looking around to see if there is something better out there. You seem as though you are unsure. Talk it over with him subtly
2007-02-20 18:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are a big tease....they string a guy along until they get the ring and papers...and then the guy is screwed...afterward they take your wallet and your house and your dreams.
Marc
2007-02-20 18:08:29 · answer #9 · answered by jdoh10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u are with him or not with him your feelings should be equally the same, its ok to have doubts but if u are not sure dont let it go any further .
2007-02-20 18:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋