I'm having a pretty casual wedding with a few bridesmaids, I thought instead of picking out the girls dresses they could choose any dress that they would want. They are all so different I thought seeing them in their own style would be nice I didn't specify color either beacuse I really am not one to be picky. Now one of the girls wants to wear white, now I'm eating my own words because I didn't even think to say anything but white because I honestly didn't even think this situation would come up. I'm not sure how to nicely tell her not to wear white? have the maid of honor maybe talk with her or should I sit down and tell her? Any suggestions would be great.
2007-02-20 09:56:29 · 17 answers · asked by Cold In Canada 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She's your friend, so just tell her what you told us... I an so sorry, but I have to ask you to get a different dress. I should have specified no white dresses, but I really didn't think this would come up. I thought everyone knew that nobody should be wearing white except the bride. I appreciate your understanding, and again, I am sorry I didn't say something from the beginning about it.
I'm sure she'll be understanding, and if she's not, well, she still needs to abide by your request, but I bet she will be fine.
Congrats, and good luck
2007-02-20 10:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you really like her dress, but you don't want her wearing white. Honestly, you didn't do anything wrong in not specifying not to wear that color. Most people consider it a rule not the wear white to a wedding. I think that would especially be applied if you were in the wedding party.
If she has a problem, then she can get over herself.
2007-02-20 18:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope she is joking with you because if she is not that is really rude of her to think she can do that. I would sit her down and just flat out tell her you are the bride and you would like to be the only woman wearing white she can choose any other color in the world just not white.
2007-02-20 18:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really like your approach to the whole issue of bridesmaid dresses! I think you can ask someone to take her aside and suggest that everyone at the wedding would think it very inappropriate that she was wearing white. No one wants to be the subject of talking behind her back. Maybe she just doesn't know any better.
Good luck.
2007-02-20 18:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by CV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her she can't wear white and that you didn't think it would be an issue otherwise you would have made it clear that white was off limits to the bridesmaids. If she makes a big deal out of it then she doesn't really want to be in your wedding.
2007-02-20 18:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on everybody knows not to wear white to a wedding unless your the bride. i hope she wasn't trying to upstage you. You and the maid of honor can talk to her about it. she should already know the answer to that ? anyways. Tell her is would be inapropriate. Is she the type of girl that always wants to focus on her? I would tell her NO you can't. Tell her she can wear white to her own wedding.
2007-02-23 12:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by hoilday luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that only the bride wears white. She should choose a different color and if she gets mad then tell her to get over it, it is your wedding not hers.
2007-02-20 18:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your maid of honor talk to her. It's never appropriate for anyone other than the bride to where white to a wedding. She must not be aware of that ettiquete. Your friend can easily just tell her it's not appropriate and leave you out of it.
2007-02-20 18:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her know her dress choice is fine, but the color white has already been taken by the bride and there are plenty of other colors she can choose from.
2007-02-20 18:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by Honesty 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pick up the phone, tell her she can't wear white.
If she balks, tell her you're sorry, but you didn't think she was that stupid that you had to stipulate that she couldn't wear white when you told the girls they could wear what they wanted.
(not really, but you know what I mean)
2007-02-20 18:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋