At what age and how years should theyhave been going out for.
2007-02-20 09:40:25 · 15 answers · asked by link it together 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends on who you are. I've lived with two men. The first I was convinced I was going to marry, but he never intended to marry me. We moved in together after dating for a year and a half. It was mostly out of necessity because we went to grad school together out of state. We were together for 3 and a half years. We were both around 21at the time.
Now, I'm living with a man I KNOW I will marry. I knew it within a week of meeting him. We moved in together after a month. I've never regretted a moment of it, and neither has he. I was 25, he was 32.
Don't wait until after marriage. You learn a lot about what your relationship can withstand if you live together first. :)
2007-02-20 09:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Age is only a number, but I definitely think you should be financial able and responsible. When both of you have good jobs and are able to contribute equally to a household income, is probably a good time to consider moving in together. Honestly, I think a couple should only move in together when they are about ready or have already been engaged. Why would you live with someone you are not going to marry? It's messy the other way, what happens if you break up.
2007-02-20 09:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think anytime a woman moves in with her boyfriend, she ends up on the losing end of things. The man enjoys all the benefits of marriage, with none of the commitments or responsibilities.
On the other hand, if you are going to move in with your boyfriend, you should do your homework first. Assuming that both parties are "mature" adults and know each other well, you should know what both of you expect from the relationship. Finances need to be discussed and agreed on "before" you move in.
You can't use an "age" or "number of years" when you are deciding when to "move in together". There are too many variables. Every situation needs to be made on an individual basis.
I wish you well with your decision.
2007-02-20 10:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how serious you are and how mature and financialy stable you are. I would say that the perfect time would be if you both had good jobs that if something happened either one could afford the bills or you are engaged and commited to eachother. Becareful sweetie cuz if something happens and you two break up you could get caught sol.
Basically you're ready to move in together whenever you both feel ready.
P.S. If you can make sure that you get a place together not one of you moves into the other person'e place because then there will always be the "well its my house" argument. If its in both of your names it gives you security.
Good Luck!
2007-02-20 09:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~BelAnge~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I am old fashioned. Why would there be a need to move in with your boyfriend before you are ready for marriage. As far as age, I would think that a person in their mid to late twenties should have experienced enough in life to have an idea of what they want in a serious relationship that may lead to marriage. I do not believe that there is a set time of how long you have been going out , as long as it has been time enough to get to know a person.
2007-02-20 09:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my fiance and i have lived together for our entire relationship.
he moved in to the apt that my best friend and i were renting after his mother kicked him out. We started dating a few weeks later. He was 17 i was 18. We have been together now for 7 years
2007-02-20 09:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is never a right age or time because regardless or not there is trouble in the air the both of you will have to try and get things together or work on getteing along. but wait till you get married.
2007-02-20 09:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by naterie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you, your values etc.. but. If you want any long term commitment.. then.. evaluate what you both what .. If it's just convince and companionship and s... what ever rocks your boat.. So many people do so many things these days. I'm far from a prude....but why buy the milk when he can get it for free? Understand.. ??
2007-02-20 09:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married of course :)
Other than that, at least 5 years. And be over 25 years old
2007-02-20 09:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by independent101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After the wedding.
2007-02-20 09:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sh*t For Brains Liberal 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋