So my friend and I have been hanging out more in the new year having a great time together, but she's with another guy who she's been seeing since before Xmas. While we've been out she's mentioned having problems with him, but while I do agree that he's getting a little too serious too fast, he's a cool guy who I know really likes her. Anyway this weekend my friend and I bumped into each other, both drunk, and she ended up admitting she has a crush on me and I wound up telling her that I've become interested her. Thanks to the liquor, I think we've ended up embarrassing ourselves and have only briefly spoken since the next morning over the phone trying to laugh it all off. The problem is our confessions are out there and I'm not sure what the best thing for me to do is. I mean I've become interested in her and I'm single, but she's in relationship and now in this situation, which I don't want to discourage her from hanging out with me. What do you guys suggest?
2007-02-20 09:16:51 · 9 answers · asked by azriss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't ask her out. Would you want to date a girl that goes behind her man's back?
Keep up the friendship and step in if she does break it off with the guy. However, keep your own options open. You would look pretty silly waiting for a girl that may eventually marry the guy. Also you would appear desperate if you clung too much to her. In short, continue your life, but keep her on the back burner.
2007-02-20 09:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a non involved, completely neutral third party, I believe that you both need to have a serious talk. A neutral third party may help the situation. I'd volunteer but I am too far away to assist.
Anyone you know probably would not be a good choice to aid the discussion.
Seriously you and your friend ned to talk plainly and in the open. The can has been opened. Burying everything is not a solution to you.
2007-02-20 09:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by sparbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont interfere in her relationship. Apologize for saying what you did and tell her, even though it may be true, you are happy just being friends. Girls get crushes all the time, it doesnt necessarily mean she wants to dump her guy and be with you. And she was drunk. i'd never take a drunk girl seriously.
hang out with her as friends, dont bring it up anymore after the apology unless shes single and brings it up. Then there will be no regrets if she does end up splitting with her man and y'all go out.
good luck!
2007-02-20 09:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by independent101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys have been friends longer than this crush so you can talk to her and tell her that you do have something for her but wont act on them because she is involve with someone else and you respect that, but let her know that you are still going to be her friend.
After that, dont make a big deal out of it and don't mention it again.
wait for a better opportunity if is meant to be it will happen.
2007-02-20 09:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by cristi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from a womens perspective I wouldn't want you to act any differently toward me, I think that you should just let her see where her relationship with the other guy goes. If it doesn't work for them then persue something. This doesn't mean you can't remain friends.
2007-02-20 09:21:47 · answer #5 · answered by Melinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't mention it unless she does and don't have the conversation drunk. Everyone tends to give their Moron Manifesto when they've had a few too many.
2007-02-20 09:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by clayp72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you dont make any move or try to influence her about dating this guy.... when she becomes single again then you can make your move...think about it, would you like some guy trying to influence your gf?? you need to show the guy some respect...its man code..
2007-02-20 09:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by camden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hav a question:
do u mean u like ur FRIEND?
or the guy?
if u like ur friend then its illegal to marry her
if u like the guy then tell him.
2007-02-20 09:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Packer Fan 101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO OUT WITH HIM
2007-02-20 09:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋