My sis in law is pregnant and needs everything! I feel a bit mean not to give it away, but equally the money would come in handy for buying my kids stuff - bigger clothes etc.
What would you do?
2007-02-20 09:10:55 · 40 answers · asked by ireallywanttoknow 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
That's a tough one.
Before you sell/give it away, keep a few of your favorite things. (Especially hand-made stuff) You can give them to your kids when they have kids of their own. It would be sad to get rid of all their stuff.
I suggest that you give some of the things to your sis-in-law. Definitely give her the clothes and things that she originally bought for your kids. That's what my sister-in-law did, and it was really sweet. Try and give her a few other things as well...it's better to give than to receive.
Feel free to sell what you want to sell. Clothes are expensive, and you have your own family to take care of as well.
Also, a good idea to help our your sister-in-law would be to throw a big baby shower for her and invite lots of people. She can register for it, and then she'll get a lot of the things/clothes that she needs.
Keep in mind that the baby is your future niece/nephew. While it is your sister-in-law's responsibility to provide for her child, it is partly your responsibility and privilige to help when it's needed. This is especially true if you are in a situation where you are able to help. It doesn't mean that you have to pay for everything, but give that new family a little boost. I know that if my siblings were ever in a situation where they could not provide for their kids, I would want to step in and help out. I would hate to see my nieces/nephews living without adequate food & clothing.
2007-02-20 09:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Go16 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, some have different reasons for doing what they do. I think it feels good to share. Maybe you can check out your local salvation army store or local yard sales for hand-me-downs, ect, if you really need a little help with in that area, too. There's outlet stores, second hand stores, buying things off-season at clearance prices for the next season has worked great for us! Major deals! It feels good & right to not only get for yourself but do for others. Even if she really could afford to get some stuff herself, it's nice to try & make others feel happy & special. Baby will appreciate it, too! It's what life should be all about, making others happy. Love! :))))
Best wishes to your sis-in-law & baby on the way!
2007-02-20 09:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by Nocine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it the same sex as your child?? I think you should perhaps give her the newborn clothes and maybe 0-3 months this would be very geneous of you, but with everything else i would sell it after all you need the money to buy your cchildren more clothes , good luck and dont feel pressured in2 having to do anything you dont want
2007-02-21 20:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by AMANDA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I hear where you are coming from here! i have been in this situation. I suggest you give your sis in Law 'some' stuff ( maybe the not so 'desirable' things) and sell the rest on eBay! Let's face it - you spent the money in the first place, and being charitable is all very well.... but.... you gotta think of yourself too!!! Gaining some pennies back is actually no bad thing! Good luck anyhoo!!
2007-02-20 09:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by yummymummy1000000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sell it to her for a fair price. Just be honest and nice about it... "I need money for bigger items for my kids and I know you need things but I cannot afford to just give them away while my kids need new things. I will cut YOU in particular a deal and gsell it to you for $x dollars." And make it a bit cheaper than you would at a yard sale or a co-signment shop so she does feel that indeed she's getting a deal.
2007-02-20 09:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know if you need the money just sell it for a fair price just make sure you don't make her pay for a gift she gave you HA HA. I gave most all my stuff away even toys as my kids grew. I usually found needy families and my kids had fun giving it and seeing another kid smile and love a toy they thought was old. I think it is up to you. my kids are 9 and under.
2007-02-20 09:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave my niece everything after i had a yard sell.
Baby clothes sell but probably not all of them, so don't feel guilty at least you are giving her something and you still get some money for things you need
2007-02-20 09:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your sister in law and explain to her you need money to replace your children's clothing as what they have is getting too small. tell her you will sell her your baby clothes at a very cheap price and she gets first pickings. what is left you can sell ata rummage.
If you realley don't need the money it sure would be nice to give the clothes to your sister in law who does need the money.
You have to look at where you are sitting fiancially and where she is sitting finacially. Then let your conscience be your guide
2007-02-20 09:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could give her a few things and sell the rest. Or offer to sell it to her cheap. Surely she could understand that you might need the money to buy your kids new things.
2007-02-20 09:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by army_sister785 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask your sis. I think that she may pick a few things, but you will find that alot of moms are very stuborn about having hand me downs. I am. But there are some things that I really liked that were used. If you will feel guilty, then ask her if she is interested. Let her take a look pick some things, then sell the rest.
2007-02-20 09:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋