I am 25 and I've been dating this guy for 6 months. He wants to get serious like marriage. I have doubts in my heart about the long term compatibility with us, although we get along good now. In my head we make complete sense and are probably a good match. I love him but for some reason in my heart I can't feel at peace with the idea of marrying him. Should I listen to my head or heart on this?
2007-02-20 09:09:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give the relationship a bit more time and see if can develope further. Another six months down the road and if you feel that it is going nowhere and your head and heart still say the same, you know its time to move on. Another thing, you have to be fair to him though. Letting him know of your mixed feelings now could help your cause as you may never know he could on the same boat.
2007-02-21 09:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage after 6 months? Run. Don't do it. And don't listen to other people here who tell you to "go with your heart and do it."
Ignoring logic and going with emotion with extremely serious issues like this always leads to disaster. 6 months is just way too little time to get to know the other person.
You are 25, which is the prime age for getting married. However, it would make more sense to get to know this guy a lot better. Another year won't kill either of you.
Good luck with your decision. Marriage is serious business and shouldn't be decided by emotion.
2007-02-20 09:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by The B Man 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't marry him until your head and your heart agree...you're not ready til then. I married my husband after only 6 months, I was only 19 but to the very depths of my being I knew he was the one for life! We have now been married 11 1/2 years...when you're ready to make that commitment you will know. If you jump into it to soon you may come to resent him and it will destroy your relationship. Good Luck.
2007-02-20 09:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
frustrating question. My coronary heart usually rules over my head, yet at times my coronary heart tells me some thing, yet then.. my head would not choose for to take heed to and knows some thing ought to ensue, if I thoroughly depended on my coronary heart.
2016-10-02 11:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say to the guy that you need some time. Tell him that you still want to be his g/f but you don't want to go that fast. Listen to your heart. You will be glad you did because you might miss Mr. Right.
2007-02-20 09:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by Packer Fan 101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feeling,That is what happens when you have dout. Take another 6 months make sure that he is what you want & need to fill all your wants & needs. If you still have dout them you made the correct choice. Hope this helps take it slow. Have fun
2007-02-20 09:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your head. 6 months is not long enough to be sure- tell him you need more time. maybe move in together first. marriage is a BIG committment, you need to be absolutely sure. you can find out alot about a person by living with them.
2007-02-20 09:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your head — it'll never let you down. The heart is incredibly unreliable. (Believe me, I know.) If you're not 100% sure about marrying him, don't do it.
2007-02-20 12:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to listen to your head. WHen you do things with your heart it some time tend to be blind. Love is blind .;-) Just wait. learn how to be friend then the rest will come natural.
2007-02-20 09:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by Manolo L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
doubts are normally in your head but you should just follow your heart, that counts for everything, that way you shouldn't regret anything
2007-02-20 09:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋