How to get my brothers dogs our of my room?

Question

My brother and his Fiance went through a bad break up about three months ago. He brought the dogs over to my parents because neither of them were home ever because they did not want to see each other. So one of the dogs would stay in his kennel and the other would just lay on the couch. I was very close with his girl friend and was with the dogs more than my brother was some days. (He worked long days) When he brought the dogs over they were very depressed and I did everything I could to make them feel at home. I would take them on car rides and play with them all the time. I also let them sleep on my bed with me. Well my brother moved into my parents last month and I cannot seem to get the dogs to sleep with him. He sleeps in the same room with my brother, which is right next to mine. I close my door when I sleep so I brought my dog in and left his out thinking they would sleep with him, but they wined at my door so much I ended up getting sick of it and opening my door for them.

My brother is kinda annoyed that they will only sleep with me and he gives me crap about it all the time. I feel that I have kind of been neglecting my own dog, and I do want the dogs out of my room. Any tips on how to keep them out?

Answer 1

The dogs have bonded with you for obvious reasons. They were neglected by their prior owners, but loved by you. You became their pack leader. So naturally, they want to spend time with you. If you treat your own dog with love and attention, your dog certainly won't feel left out. Instead, he'll just find his own way into the pack. That is, while you may be the "alpha", one of your brother's dogs may be the beta. Your dog may be next and so on. So your dog won't feel left out. He's getting tons of attention from you and from his fellow dogs. It's a nice pack. In other words, don't bestow your human emotions (in this case, guilt) on your dog.

As such, I would actually recommend that you keep the dog situation as is. It sounds like your brother is still unstable and God only knows where those poor dogs will wind up next (the pound??? put to sleep?!!!). But you may need to train them. In my home, one dog sleeps next to me, the other sleeps on a pillow by the floor of my bed. They are both with me, but both have their own space - and they actually prefer it this way! The one on the floor WANTS to be there (I've put him on the bed, he will only stay a short time and hop off). The one on the bed wants to be there - and will stay there until I call him off. Both of my dogs are trained though and they've learned their place in the pack.

So you may need some training - like pillows and such. This way you can at least have your bed to yourself (or only one dog there).

But if you are adamant that the other dogs stay with your brother, then he basically has to start being a good owner and winning them back. He has to start feeding them and playing with them and showering them with attention. He can't ignore them but expect them to adore him anyway. If he wants the dogs in his room or on his bed, he has to work with them. One way is for him to start spending time with the dogs (feeding, walks, playing, loving). Then he should put them in his room and close the door. He could even read a book on his bed for a while with the dogs there. This may get them used to being with him.

However, as much as he may try, it may be that the dogs picked YOU as their leader and that's that. Years ago, my parents dog would only sleep with me when I was home. He'd stay with my mother otherwise, but if I was there, he'd ignore her. He chose me as his "pack leader" and that was that. Some dogs do pick their owners, and you sound like a great one. Your brother could learn from you.

Answer 2

I think you should made your brother feed the dogs every mealtime and eat before the dogs eat. if he's not already, give them more attention. And I think you should step back in your role and not play with them much or at all until things settle down. The idea is that your brother will become a leader/more dominant then he is now and you to not be valued as much by the dogs.
So hopefully the dogs won't want to be in your den (room) but with the leader (brother).

Answer 3

Simple, don't let them in. Not to say you should keep the door closed at all times, because eventually they'll learn. But you giving in to their whining? Problem number 1. It makes it more difficult to train them not to do something when they've grown accustomed to doing it. In other words.. completely your fault. So who can correct this behavior? You. By first and foremost, letting the dogs know that the room is off limits at all times. Leave your door open and sit in your room. When they approach the doorway, walk up to them and direct them away. Don't even let them cross the line at the doorway. To do this, the best method would be to first touch and secondly speak. Dogs learn more from touch than by any other sense. A simple contact touch to the neck will direct their attention to you, rather than the want to get into your room. Second, say no and try snapping your fingers and pointing in the direction you want them to go instead. The sound of the snap will direct them to your hand, and the motion will tell them you want them to go. If they try to walk in the opposite direction than you are pointing, touch them again, say no, and redirect them back to where you had originally wanted them to go. It is important that when doing this you remain calm and assertive. Don't ask him to go, tell him to go. Don't think that this is being mean! It's not. They'll only see that as weakness. All you're doing is training them as to what is acceptable. This will, of course, need to be done several times before the dog stops attempting to go into the room all together. (The best way for a dog to learn is repetition, not once a day, but several times a day.) Eventually the dog will learn that your room is off limits and will seek an alternate place of rest. Unfortunately, that's all you can do. If your brother wants them to sleep in his room, that's completely up to him. He shouldn't give them the choice not to. He should make them follow him into his room, and once there, if they become vocal in protest, he needs to practice the same training method. Touch to redirect their attention, tell them no, and help them get into a calm and submissive state of mind. It's also important that when they listen you reward them! Not necessarily with treats or hugs or kisses. A simple massage of the neck and back will be more than sufficient. This way, they'll associate good behaviors with affection. Good Luck!

Answer 4

the only way they are going to sleep with him is if he steps up to the plate and pays attention to them. he needs to be a better parent. I would want to stay with the parent that took good care of me too.
But the dogs have been threw enough they shouldn't be thrown out, because your brother is a moron.

Answer 5

u can close ur door and not let them in ur room for like a week or 2 the dogs will learn that u dont want them in ur room as for ur own dog pay attention to it they have feelings like we do good luck hunny

Answer 6

you giving in to them will only make the situation worse. you need to make your bed room off limits all the time to the dogs, or they wont understand why they cant come in at bedtime. i know it is hard, but you need to ignore them when they are whining at your door. every time you give in, it reinforces their behaviour.

you may need to use discipline to do this - but your brother needs to help. as long as you assert yourself as the pack leader and not their friend or their mother, they will start to be more obedient.

Answer 7

put his dog in his room and shut the door. He should be taking care of the beast himself. Tell to either take care of the dog or get rid of it.

Answer 8

you are now TOP DOG in their eyes, they prefer you, to their for mer owner they are now out of picture they have selected YOU as their boss doghuman! accept it or tell your brother to remove himself with the dogs that is the only way!!

Answer 9

you can tell your brother that your dog should sleep with you and his wife!!!!!!!!