I've been going out with a guy for 3 years now. But im just scared. I want to make us both feel good. Help?
2007-02-20 09:05:35 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FOr all the people who are asking how old I am. I am in college.
2007-02-20 09:13:54 · update #1
If you doubt that you're ready, then you're not. You will know when you're ready. Don't force it, otherwise you may regret it later.
2007-02-20 09:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's up to you if you are ready. Talk to your bf,ask him if he is ready also. To me I think that it's cool that you have been in a relationship for 3 years and not have had sex. I am in a 7 year relationship ,I dated guys before him but I was scared to have sex with these guys. Once I meet the guy that I am with now, when it was time to have sex I was not scared. He was my first. That's how you know if you are ready. Sweetie I think you are not ready . You don't have to rush. He have been with all this time with out it so you know he cares and loves you. Trust me you will know if you are ready.
2007-02-20 17:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by sweetmocha07031984 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it has been three years, a little more time wont hurt. A big hug is great to make you both feel good, even holding hands. As for when you will be ready for sex, when that time is right, you wont need to ask, you will just know it. Believe me, he waited three years, he loves you. Dont compromise, you may as well wait til he marries you now. Sex changes things alot, and those changes can be good,or, not so good, so take time and be sure.
2007-02-20 17:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by yp_marie_lake_charles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to ask you, How OLD are you? If you are under 16 you are too young in my opinion. If this guy is over 18 and you are under 18 again NO. If you have been with this guy for three years and you are of age then I would say if you both are willing and you USE birth control then OK. Don't rush things and take it easy. And remember always practice SAFE SEX, always. Have a good time.
2007-02-20 17:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on allot of things. First your age. If your still a teen would wait until your older. But if that's not possible talk to an adult that you trust. explain to this person what you are going through. Remember after you go past that line there's no going back. You will ALWAYS remember your first time. Do you really love this guy enough to have him in your memory the rest of your life. Lastly if you do decide to go for it, ALWAYS USE CONDOMS even if you go on the pill. The pill prevents pregnancy not sexually transmitted disease.(go search std's on the Internet and see exactly what i mean) p.s there are other ways to keep each other happy with out intercourse.
2007-02-20 17:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by Bruce B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you're ready because you're asking people you don't know, online if you are ready. if you are really ready, you wouldn't have to ask. even if it's been three years, you admit that you're still scared and you're asking us if you're ready. you are not ready... don't do anything unless you absolutely want to. be true to yourself. and ask yourself why you are scared. is it religious? do you trust him? what's the deeper issue here? good luck with everything
2007-02-20 17:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by peaches87 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are definitely ready. dint be scared just ask him what he wants and he will tell you. the best thing for you to do is just be open with what you want. don't fake anything because that will cause him to get upset with you later. also if he wants to do anything that you are uncomfortable with don't do it. it is your body and your feelings.
2007-02-20 17:17:14 · answer #7 · answered by play hard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't sure if you are ready then don't. Becuase if you are not comfortable then it won't be good for either of you. Just don't worry about, when you are ready it will happen.
2007-02-20 17:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by Melinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to think about it or talk yourself into it then NO. You'll know when the time is right and if he really loves you and respects you as a woman he won't put any pressure on you.
2007-02-20 17:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by clayp72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question then you are not ready. Why don't you sit down and have this discussion with your mother or pastor.
2007-02-20 17:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by Cherri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋