I'm 21 now, but I had my first boyfriend at the age of 20, so last year. He was older, 26 and we both go to the same university. He was much more experienced w/ girls, while he was my first bf & kiss. We dated for a short while, then HE ended it. It was a very innocent relationship, never went past kissing cuz he knew I wanna save myself for marriage. Neways, once he dumped me of course my self esteem went down, BUT, even while we were dating, he was very concerned w/ looks. Don't get me wrong, people always tell me I'm beautiful & I have a great figure, some even say I look like Angelina Jolie, but my ex would say little things that would bug me. He liked playboy types who looked fake. Also, near the end of the relationship, he was sort of ignoring me, so I called him one night to say goodnight since HE would always do that, & he said something very mean.
2007-02-20 09:02:41 · 17 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was coming home from a party & when I asked how the party was he said: "Oh, u know there were so many hot girls there, u know the type that look like strippers & look really dirty”. I was shocked & just said bye quickly. I was REALLY hurt & couldn’t believe he said that to me, cuz I know I’m beautiful & he would always give me compliments before. I knew the relationship was over once he said that. Neways, I now feel like he ruined my self-image. I’ve dated other guys after him, & many guys give me compliments but b/c he was my first bf, I think his comment & his attitude on beauty have scarred me somehow. Because of him, I always feel like I’m never pretty enough or good enough. How do I get over this feeling?
2007-02-20 09:02:57 · update #1
By the way, people said I was way better than him. He's Chinese, 5'7 and he's chubby with a belly. I just don't understand how someone not that hot at all, had such high standards of beauty, while I AM beautiful?
2007-02-20 09:03:06 · update #2
I'm pretty sure he was putting down the hot girls at the party by calling them "dirty"
if not really you seem like a pretty girl just by your description and he does not seem very attractive just by your description of him. please don't dwell on something an unattractive man told you. you have people telling you you are beautiful you should believe the other people.
move on and try not to let your looks bother you. I'm sure you are a very nice looking girl and your ex was just a jerk
2007-02-20 09:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by play hard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Negative people can plant ideas into our heads when we are growing up and we tend to remember those things.....for a long time./
Are you going to let a comment by an overweight old dude who likes trash bug you for the rest of your life??????
Think about where this guys priorities are in life..... Broads that look like strippers and phony implants,,,etc.....maybe enjoys por*, who knows..
You are so much more than that. Being beautiful on the outside is a wonderful girft, but you must enhance it by being beautiful on the inside also.
This is a time when you should be groming yourself for a wonderful life which you so richly deserve.
You are going to meet Mr. Right when it is time, do not worry, there will lots of men for you.
You are feeling insecur that is all, cause you listened to an arrogant, self destructive man with a negative attitude.
You should not worry about what he or anyone else thinks.... this is about what you think.
Look in that mirror, who do you see... believe in yourslef and you can do anything.
Fear is the culprit that stops us all from going ahead, being productive , assured and properous.
You must learn to love you, with any flaws that there are. and you must love yourself unconditionally....
Be true to yourself.....you are wonderful.....
2007-02-20 09:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ofcourse you're beautiful.even without seeing you personally,i know for sure youre beautiful not only on the outside but also in the inside.just a thought,he probably broke up with u cuz u didnt wanna be intimate with with him.thats perfectly fine and arent u glad u didnt cuz i dont think he was the right guy for that.anyways,he was probably saying those to you to try to intimidate you and knowing you might change your mind bout that aspect.but dont let him lower your self esteem.continue valuing yourself and dont let that get into your head.he was just your first and the good thing is he is not the only guy on earth, so sure is he's not the last.continue dating and this time pick the
right guy ok?good luck
2007-02-20 09:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he would rather look at a trashy ho, that is his loss, find a guy that thinks a normal girl is hot. Don't let this loser ruin your self esteem, do you think any of these girls he admires so much would even look at him sideways? You are better off, and thank god you didn't sleep with this creep.
2007-02-20 09:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's an @sshole ! I have dated a few guys that were exactly like this. It has nothing to do with your looks. He was probably just overly disappointed that he couldn't get into your pants. Keep on saving yourself! You can do WAY better! Believe it or not, there ARE guys that respect that!
2007-02-20 09:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok seems like a douche, but listen if your in a relationship at his age with no sex, he is gonna wanna get out of it, and he decided to go the be arrogant and act like a dick till you were too upset to still be there, and it obviously worked, but hey you sounds like a broken spirit and dont let a fat asian tell you whats up, cause you were too good lookiong for him, he was just an as s so let it go, and dont pine over losers, good evening
2007-02-20 09:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a real compliment, if you look like Angelina Jolie, you must be really fine, hope you dont mind me saying, i happen to think Angelina Jolie is very hot, so dont worry about your looks, guys can be really funny somtimes, and im a guy. there are a lot more guys out there who will appreciate you you so dont worry about it,
2007-02-20 09:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about him. Move on. It sounds like you are better off without him anyway. Anyone who can alter your self worth as you had mentioned is definately not someone you want to associate with
2007-02-20 09:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this one is easy... he KNOW'S you are beautifull & that you could have any man...he aslo no's he cant.. So he wants /feels the need to try & make you feel as bad about yourself & he does about himself...... PLEASE dont let him get to you. I have been through the same sort of thing.. I'm 5"9 & was 9 stone & my boyfriend always said I was fat/ugly etc.... I'm now 12 stone & SO BLOODY happy (i'm not with him now) & have no end of admirers! Tell him to get lost!!!!!
2007-02-20 09:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by friendly chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so worried about what other people think? Your ex was a jerk and made you feel inadequate, so just forget about him. They're plenty of guys out there who will make you feel like princess... now go find them.
2007-02-20 09:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by ?Erroneous? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋