Me and my girlfriend have had some rough patches in the past, but now we have worked things out and our doing good. I just feel like i try a bit harder then she does. Thats not to say she doesn't but i find myself doing more little things. Is this normal or is there something i should do? For example i'll stay on the phone with her even if im dead tired if she wants to talk, but she on the other hand has to sleep (thats just the way she is though), or ill go out of my way to see her at school. Should I stop these things so that she starts to do them or am i just playing the role a good boyfriend should? I just dont want her to loose interest in me, which theres no chance of happening right now.
2007-02-20 09:00:06 · 6 answers · asked by Hurt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it's normal!! What's defines normal anyway?
2007-02-20 09:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Liberal City 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good boy friend to me. You have all the characteristics and don't stop because it will create more probs.
To make this relationship work, yeah, your going to be the one pulling all da slack but dats what a man does. Don't play games is what i'm saying not doing stuff for her isn't going to make her do what you did for her, still just be more distant than eventually move on. Girls will never pull dat penny out of dur purse or its ur ace to da curb.
2007-02-20 17:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by smoke_frm_apple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships are give and take! simple as that! but i'm sure she notices that u go out of your way and sacrifice for her benefit and happiness and i bet she appreciates it and loves you even more because of it. but if there are times when you just really wanna go to bed and get off the phone.... tell her something sweet, and then tell her you gotta go. but dont be a jerk about it cuz she might get defensive and be a ***** to you. (that's what women do) but it sounds like you're sweet and good to her so try to keep it up and hang in there.... these things dont go unnoticed. Also if you guys are close enough.... it wont hurt to express to her how you feel.... just watch how you word it so it comes out right and doesn't sound like you're telling her she's selfish. GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-20 17:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kimber Gem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, a relationship is based on sharing, not even score on who calls more or visits more. its not a competition.
however, if you feel that you may be pulling more than she is, then you need to throw the ball back at her.
dont stay on the phone, end the call before she does.
if you are tired, hang up.
agree to meet her at school, but dont do above and beyond the call...as you said, go out of your way.
if she is your GF, she will make the effort to see you despite your change in "tactics."
if she complains on why you dont call or see her as much as before, that may tell you something, perhaps she is relying on you more and not pulling her weight.
2007-02-20 17:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mystery, always the mystery. It always helps a relationship if the other person doesn't quite know that they have you. Back away a bit, not too much, but enough to make her wonder what you are doing. Don't always be available. Try it. I bet it will work wonders.
2007-02-20 17:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Pierre Patelin Longshanks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes getting bored. maybe you can try to spice up the relationship. but if you come to relize your doing a lot for her, then your just gonna be her slave. thats when you need to pack the bags and leave.
2007-02-20 17:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋