is dating a game?

Question

if so, what are the fundamental skills necessary to be good at it?

for example, in basketball you have to learn to dribble, pass, and shoot.

Answer 1

dating is a game.

respect her as a person,
be yourself,
have fun with her company,
treat her as if she is your best friend,
be wary of mind games which may or may not be present,
deal with mind games as if its low-class behavior and not worth playing.

sounds bland, but you cant rush on love, a woman will give herself when she feels comfy and interested...this could be quickly, may take time, or may never happen.

Answer 2

Flirt, hygiene, humorous, the ability to bluff and read people.

Dating is closer to poker or fishing then baseball or basketball.

Everyone who cant play the game is going to tell you that dating isn't a game.

I used to think the same way until i got out to bars, parties and clubs.

If dating was just about feelings I would have gotten a lot more women than I have had now.

The whole idea of dating being a game goes back to pure instinct and animal nature. Potential mates will test each other and pretty much be rivals until the instant they realize the other person proves they are a good match. If you cant keep up then you get left behind so to speak.

If you don't challenge the other person enough then the game is no fun, neither person have fun and if you're not having fun then whats the point?

When you're young an naive (no offense this is true for all people), you make out a relationships to be magical. Although they tend to make you feel the happiest you've ever been, the fact is, its all programming in your brain. Coded into your DNA for the survival of the species. A chemical reaction in your brain that gets you happy when you see a possible mate. From then on its... the dating game eventually kids and so goes on the species.

Answer 3

Dating is NOT a game! It's a relationship. We all have relationships: parent, child, friend, neighbor, co-worker, whatever. It's a special "transitional" relationship meant to test whether there's a chance of more or, for some people, it's an end in and of itself with no deeper commitment being possible.

The same skills that will help you be a good parent or good child, good friend, good neighbor, good worker, all those skills come into play when you're dating. For example, do you know how to compromise? Hopefully everyone over the age of 3 has learned that we can't always have things our way and that tantrums are inappropriate. See what I mean? It's people skills: say what you mean and mean what you say but don't be unduly harsh about it and try a little diplomacy now and then.

Answer 4

MJ, LIFE is a game, so why wouldn't dating to find your "one true love" not also be a game? It's not a selfish mean game...it's a "meaningful" game. It's all about attitude. There are winners at life and losers. The winners at dating? R the 1s who get their pick & marry em. The successors of life? The couples who dated so well they made a GREAT match & stayed married for over 30 years! All the while being MOSTLY happy. If your a "playa" and your wanting idea on "bedding" women that's a "loser". You've already LOST in "the game". Who would ever wish to be "the best date" but the worst husband? Y'see, it is a game...when we, as the ppl, can label lovers, b/f, g/f, wives, husbands, parents as good or bad...who out there is truly looking to have the word "bad" before one of those titles? So really it is a game. Perhaps the choice of words is tacky...but it's true...love is a game. Friendship is a game. Parenting is a game. But they are very very very serious games! It's called LIFE, real life. There are always rules. And MJ, you do know them already. "treat others as you would have them treat unto you"...need more...check out the Ten Commandments...most of them are our laws. Good luck

Answer 5

Dating is a game, in so much as it is a means to an end -- if you want it to be -- with the end being marriage (or a serious intimate relationship). In order to play the game successfully, you have to first be equipped with knowledge of what YOU hope to gain from it. Are you in it for love -- or are you in it for casual fun and interaction?

If you are in it for love -- you need to know what your goals, priorities and attractions are. You can weed out a lot of bad prospects, just by knowing yourself and what you want. If you are not a NASCAR fan -- don't waste your time with someone who spends their life at the race track or watching the Speed channel. If you are a Christian, don't waste your time dating people who don't share your faith and beliefs.

ALSO -- you have to know how to communicate well. Dating is about getting to know the other person, so that you can find out if that person might be the right one. My husband has told me about several dates he went on where he thought he would enjoy getting to know a woman better, but she didn't talk. Who wants to spend an evening with someone who can't communicate?

A certain amount of flirting is required. EYE CONTACT is key! SMILING is also a plus!

If all goes well.... KISSING is also good.

Answer 6

Lol, it basically is; but its one of the most complicated games you'll ever play. The best "skill" is not to get caught breaking the rules, cheating.

Answer 7

in dating you need to watch, listen, and learn.
watch, not stalk, so you can see what kind of person you are trying to date. is she a lady? is she athletic? is she independent? clingy? is she always with friends or a loner? etc, etc.
listen to what she says and HEAR her.
based on the above, you will learn if she is the type of girl you want to date.
the game is, she's doing the same thing.

Answer 8

Dating is a harder game than chinese checkers.You have to not 'drop' the ball,and never 'pass' on a date for friends.

Answer 9

it is for the first 30 days.

Answer 10

Sure it is. I think men and women should have game in order to get what they want. But the games must cease after you are in a relationship!