Does anyone on here live their lives in a state of anxiety?

Question

I seem to feel anxious most of the time. As soon as I wake up I start to think about what there is to worry about that day. Come the evening I start to worry about what there is to do the next day. Sometimes even simple things I need to do around the house get me in a stew. Can I unlearn this behaviour?

Now I'm worried about all you people because you're stressed. Thanks for sharing your thoughts though. It's reassuring to know we're not alone.

Answer 1

you can unlearn it by getting a massage or (if your a girl) go to a spa for a day...it will wipe away all stress!!!!!!! Or you can do something to keep your mind off of it like take up a hobby or meditate

Answer 2

Yes yes yes i am exactly the same as you, i was diagnosed with clinical depression when i was 13 and was put on anti depressants (Prozac) (it's a chemical imbalance within the brain) i have been told that my depression is mainly focused on my anxiety, i will lie in bed at night and worry about what things i have done wrong in the day (even if it really ain't that important) i always worry about what is going to happen the next day and make it worse at the moment i have just started a new job and i cannot get off to sleep very well (will take me at least an hour or 2)

Sometimes anxiety is outta our hands you may have underlying problem like depression or something, i wouldn't take any advice from anybody on here i would go and see your nearest Dr and explain it all to them they will be able to help you honestly....

p.s i am totally fine when i am at home and don't have to worry about anything but as soon as i have work etc my aniety hit's the roof!!

Good luck hope this helps x x x

Answer 3

Oh gosh! I know exactly how you feel! I experienced it for a whole nine months last year, and still do now every now in then. You enjoy going to sleep, but when your alarm wakes you up reality hits you and it sucks! My advice is try to take some deep breaths when you're feeling really anxious. I find that excercising can make me feel better. Yoga is a great thing to do. Sometimes it is good to have a diary to write all your worries down in and someone to talk to. Calming things like baths can help to. There was this one CD where it kind of relaxes you and helps you stop anxiety. By listening to it every night it helped me! I'm really not sure what it is called though :(. But ask around and you might be able to find it.

Answer 4

There are lots of people who live with this condition. I'm very pleased to say I'm not one of them but my mother is. Everybody suffers anxiety attacks from time to time but some people, like you, become overwhelmed by them. It is a medical condition, in much the same was as diabetes or epilepsy. You don't have the correct balance of chemicals in your brain. There are things you can do to help manage the condition yourself. Relaxation, good diet, regular exercise even keeping a diary, can all be helpful. However many people need medical assistance to manage the condition. Unfortuantely, unlike diabetes, doctors can't tell if treatments are working by a simple blood test, the only measure they have is your frame of mind, and it can take a while for this to change, so finding the right treatment may not be a quick process. Go and see your doctor and ask for a referal to a mental health specialist. If you can, keep a diary, though don't allow this to become a source of anxiety, this can be an invaluable tool in assisting in managing your condition.

You are not alone, many people out there are dealing with the same condition, don't be afraid to get help.

Good luck

Answer 5

Wow! I like Smiley's answer but there are a lot of good ones. I am so glad other people have stupid inadequacies too. I guess I have always done it a wee bit and it's still not out of control but it got a helluva lot worse after my wife died. I feel very silly about it. The real nasty bit comes if you get it about 4.00 in the morning, you are hardly sensible enough to control it. If it does happen I make myself get up and have a cup of tea. The swimming idea is a good one (except that swimming is boring)so is walking. I now have a dog that is quite a steadying thing and I walk for an hour a day or more. That is very calming.

Take heart . . . . . you obviously aren't alone.

very best wishes anyway

Answer 6

I know what you mean and am working on that problem myself. Before getting out of the bed in the morning remind yourself this is going to be a glorious day and set the ball in motion. Get up and smile and say I am going to see that the rest of the day goes this way. Keep doing it and I know that things will turn around. We tend to dwell too much on the worries of life at times and miss all the little nice things during the day and remember if you do not get EVERYTHING done today but enjoyed the day and had a few good laughs then you did even better then what you had planned. Good luck!

Answer 7

My life is one BIG roller coaster ride which doesn,t stop. The highes are very short but the lows are very long, I,ve recently had my anti-depressants changed which sent me even lower, hence my GP changed them again and also prescribed a 7 day course of diazapam which seems to be helping I,ve also got counselling sessions booked. I hope all this will help me. I

Answer 8

Organizing your thoughts will really help you relax.

Get a day planner, or a desk calendar (something with room to write in), and two different colored pens.

Make a list of things that need to be taken care of "today" like laundry, dinner, vacuuming, paying bills. Then, for the next week, write down on each day a couple things that you want to accomplish but that aren't as time-sensitive. Things like getting a haircut or cleaning the windows.

Try to think realistically about what "has" to happen as opposed to what you would "like" to happen. Write the "have to"s and the "want to"s in different color inks so you won't confuse their importance.

As you're thinking, or when you get stressed, make these lists and assign daily and weekly tasks. Cross items off the list as you finish them, add items as they occur to you. Most anxiety comes from either fretting you won't have enough time, or that you'll forget to do something important. When it's written down, you won't forget. If one of the "wants" goes a few days without being done, make it a "have to" and give it some priority.

And at night, when you wake up worrying about what needs to be done, or something that you forgot to do, remind yourself of this: Nothing can be done right now anyway. If you forget to pay a bill, you could go write it out right now, but it will just sit on the counter or in the mailbox until the morning anyway. You need your sleep.

Hope this wasn't too confusing! I wrote more than I intended.

Best of luck to you. Send me an email if you need or want more ideas!

Answer 9

This is usually a sign of depression if it is persistant. We all worry and get anxious from time to time - it's logical, but if you're constantly worried about trivial things then it may be best to see a doctor or try some cognitive psycotherapy. Are you at home all the time - or in a state where things are making you depressed, say for example, stressful job, circumstances - it's usually a sign that you need to listen to your body and take time to relax.....hope this helps.

Answer 10

Me too. My G.P. has given me tablets to take for it, but I do not take them because it causes me other problems not least further anxiety ! Logic or reason does not help and I know there is no point in worrying about what is going to happen anyway and that which I have no control over.
What does help me is Tia Chi. Like meditation it involves the control of your breathing rhythms. It is like disconnecting your mind and is such a relief.
You can do it on your own or in a group. I believe there are books. It may even be all rubbish, but under the pretext of "it is doing you good" it is a marvellous distraction from all those things not worth worrying about.

Answer 11

I'm fine and relaxed when I'm at home by myself but I panic if someone knocks at the door. I hate having to go into work because my colleagues will insist on going there too. I don't go out anywhere any more. I visit my brother once a year, at Christmas because he comes and gets me to make sure I go (he lives about 13 miles away). I haven't been to visit my sister in almost three years (330 miles) and have never visited my best friend, nieces and nephews; various parts of the country.

I do sometimes wish I could face going out again. I love to travel (but the bit in between the travelling is not so enjoyable). I am actually a joiner and spent the first half of my life in bands, orchestras, churches, choirs, library and museum-based groups but then it all stopped and I don't want to go anywhere now, much to everyone else's frustration and annoyance.