I have been seeing this man for a few months, and he has asked me to move away with him, but I recently found out that he has female friends he emails and was at a hospital with one recently who had tried to commit suicide. She happened to be about 12 years younger than him and also blonde, his favourite type. He met her on the internet and insists that they are just friends. He also often has talked about his ex and how great she was. I can't decide if he is just a nice guy or there is something more sinsiter going on. Am I blinded by wanting to believe he is telling the truth and is only wanting to be with me? I just am not sure and would like to hear opinions from people who may have experienced similar situations. I don't want to go away and live with him if he is not on the level. What do you think?
2007-02-20 08:35:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go back a reread your own question - this guy is a whack.
2007-02-20 08:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by urrrp 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have been seeing this man for a few months, I would think that would not be enough time to really get to know him.Where did you meet, through mutual Friends or on line? He seems to have a weakness for the Ladies.You said he e-mails female friends(plural) was visiting a suicidal woman friend in the hospital(met on Internet)AND talks about how great his ex was. That tells me that this man is a womanizer. I would NOT move anywhere with this man until I KNEW him, and possibly someone who could give him some credibility. If you decide to stay in this relationship, I WOULD PROCEED WITH CAUTION.
2007-02-20 09:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not go away with him , I mean by any means I'm not trying to stop true love, But is it true love or is he just wanting you to leave your family and friends?? Is he trying to get you to go away with him because he loves you or maybe he just wants to kill you. I'm not trying to scare you but I'm sorry he talks with girls on the Internet who are 12 years younger, that's frightening. Their was this man who talked to all these younger girls (36 to be exact) on the Internet sexually abused them and killed them. I mean your probably not 12 years younger but what if he was like that other guy. Maybe recently he has upset someone and that's really why he wants to move. I'd be careful and not go and just be friends or have a long distance relationship. I'll keep you in my prayers.
2007-02-20 08:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by miranda c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In a world full of uncertainty, it's probably best to make the smartest possible choices so that your don't end up regretting things. You shouldn't move anywhere with someone you've only known a few months, let a lone someone whom you have doubts about who they associate with. I say move on, and find someone who makes you feel secure and doesn't ask you for such a huge commitment so soon.
2007-02-20 08:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is good to know that you see the 'signs.' Moving in with a man is like getting married. If you move in and away you are willing to except the way he is. You should never go into any relationship trying to change a person. If you move, you are willingly excepting all of his flaws. If you do not feel as feel you can except his other female friends, do not make this move.
2007-02-20 08:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by Cherri 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no. you shouldn't go away with someone you've only known a few months, especially when your gut feeling is that everything is not as it seems. what's the rush? why does he want to take you away? doesn't that seem strange to you? did he have anything to do with the other woman's suicide attempt? there are too many weird issues here, you need to do some more research on this guy hon! start by checking your states circuit court system for any run ins with the law he might have had...just google your state+circuit courts...and it shoudl pop up...you can search by name.
2007-02-20 08:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not move in with this man he does not seem trustworthy. He seems to hold a significant longing for his ex may be he has'nt moved on. Maybe he still hopes she'll return. In the meantime he thinks why not have some fun.
2007-02-20 08:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by anedot 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're being misled to think he is anything but a friend who listens to you. If he just wanted you, he would make the first move instead of having ways out everywhere. He's not ready for monogamy and maybe neither are you.
2007-02-20 08:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that your instincts are ready guiding you, because you already have some doubt as to the sincerity of this person.You just have to pay attention to your instincts. You also need to know much more about this person before you take a chance on your life like that.
2007-02-20 08:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh nooooooooooooo a man with female friends... what is the world coming to.
Grow up you daft mare.... my best friend is a woman and if I were ever to get married, she would be my best man too.... plus she knows all the good strip joints!
2007-02-20 08:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think you should go anywhere with this man you don't seem to know him well enough. he doesn't seem very honest and open to me, i think if it were me i would be very careful. i know you want to believe him but it could all go badly wrong for you. just take your time there is no rush is there ? and if he doesn't turn out to be the one for you then hey just move on and find someone new !!! good luck
2007-02-20 09:34:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋