Ok, so maybe this is petty, but I'm frustrated. I'm moving to Texas (from Illinois) on Thursday. However, I don't have mattresses. So I was looking through the local paper, and I found a NEW set for $110. I called my boyfriend and told him about the situation, but that the seller would only be able to hold it if someone went to pay it before the delivery date. So I asked nicely if my boyfriend would do it for me and I would pay him back immediately. He tells me that he wouldn't mind doing it, but when is he ever going to find the time? He has class from such and such time, and then goes home. Boo hoo. Well, here I am working 80 hours a week, moving to be closer to him, spending all this time and money doing so, and he can't do the ONE thing I ask? He didn't even have to pick it up or anything... what gives? Am I wrong to be frustrated with him?
2007-02-20 08:32:14 · 20 answers · asked by Miranda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes we have to fend for ourselves. Go to the post office, get a money order and overnight it to the person selling the mattress.
2007-02-20 08:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by babeebluez73 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This should be a wake up call to you. The fact that you are the one doing all the sacrifices in moving to get closer to him and he is not, already has set the beginning of a growing disrespect for you. You are teaching him to take advantage of you by you doing all the work to be closer to him. Big mistake. But I know you are gonna go ahead and move anyway. Hope you think of what I have said when down the line, a few months from now, you find yourself unhappy and with him.
2007-02-20 08:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong to be frustrated. You're making a major change in your life for him, he should be able to find the time to do this one thing for you. But before you hold it over his head for the rest of your lives, make sure you tell him how you feel about it. It's not fair to him if he doesn't even realize you're upset. Guys are clueless when it comes to this stuff. And they probably always will be. So be a good gf and clue him in. And if he's still a selfish jackass, then at least you know.
2007-02-20 08:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mary K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he is actually busy, if he cant get you this one, then ask him to keep a look out for a good deal like this one. You probably are really stressed about moving and are over reacting here just a bit.
Just let him know of all the things that you need when you get moved, ask him to look for good deals when he has time. Lots going on here, you both are probably stressed.
2007-02-20 08:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whew - take a really good look at this situation. Take in all the emotions and the drama and the tension, whatever. Now, tell yourself that this is only the beginning. Any irritation you have for him will quadruple very quickly with a relationship.
He will never change - never ever ever change - for you or anyone. So, now armed with that knowledge, do you want to be with him - he'll never change and the ONLY CHOICE you have is to love him unconditionally - exactly as he is now - because he'll never change for you.
So, sure you can be frustrated with him, but get ready to be frustrated much and often.
FP
2007-02-20 08:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are frustrating in general. Just let him know if he doesn't do this for you, he should kick in the extra money it will take to get mattresses at a larger price! That's a deal!
He's just being lazy. Not much you can do about it from Illinois...
2007-02-20 08:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by Nichole D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You two both need to chill out!
It's the pressure of the move that has you stressed, not a mattress.
Don't make the mistake of taking it out on him, it'll just end up being a miserable move for you both.
2007-02-20 08:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're making this huge move, just to be closer to your boyfriend, that can't do one small favor for you now? If he's not willing to do that now, I would doubt that's going to change for the future. I would seriuosly reconsider the move, or at least maybe put it off a little while longer...
2007-02-20 08:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by Valerie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be frustrated. You just asked for help. thats the time where he should be shining for you... Look you are even moving closer to him? You think he would say hey baby I 'll buy you a new one or here is mine ;-)
2007-02-20 08:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by Manolo L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god,
I'm sorry but it's just a bed
I think it was slightly petty of you,
Like he said maybe he hasn't got time
Maybe you should cut down your hours and get the bed yourself.
Is it that much of a deal ???
2007-02-20 08:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋