Alright so she finally fessed up to cheating on me, but it was 6-7 months ago and we didnt really know eachother because we started seeing eachother right after we met. I went on and made a huge deal about it, got her to stop talking to the guy, told the guy if I ever saw him or if anyone ever said a word about him and my girl that Id beat his face in. She was crying the whole time and you could really tell she was seriously sorry for it and we're alot closer now than we were back then. I told her I was as mad as hell, but it wasnt worth loosing her over something that happened half a year ago.
The problem is I cheated on her too, but I didnt fess up to it. And all her and the guy had was one little kiss; and...I did a little more than that lol. But Im guessing it wouldnt be the best idea to tell her about it now would it? If you think I should, how do I tell her?
2007-02-20 08:26:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't be a bastard if you care about her tell her. She has every right in the world to know seeing as how you are in a committed relationship.
2007-02-20 08:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in a way it does not seem right how you jumped down the guys throat for something so innocent but you were protecting your girl and did not want anything further to come between you and her so then you cheat on her and it is much, how is that fair? If you want her to be upfront with you then you had better be upfront with her and tell her what you did and why and then hope that she will forgive you for what happened. Don't be surprised if she gets upset about what you did and needs time to think, that means that you need to give her some space so she does not say something she will regret later on.
2007-02-20 16:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes honesty is not the best policy. Don't tell her. If you truly have regrets and know you will not cheat on her again, then you two should just leave the past behind you and work at building the relationship stronger. Also try to be more respectful of her as being aggressive or violent for any reason is not something good for her to see in you. Best of luck to you both!
2007-02-20 16:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did it come about that she "fessed up"?
Did you suspect she cheated and pressured her until she confessed?
If she hasn't been suspicious of you, then you got away with it. But you, unlike sooooo many others, are honorable and want to come clean.
The best way to go about it is to tell her. Doesn't have to be a special time or place, just do it. The longer you wait, the harder it will be for you.
2007-02-20 16:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not fess up and she finds out about it later you are a dead man. I find that honesty is the best policy, even if ti causes some problems. After all if you are both cheating on eachother than maybe you aren't meant to be together.
2007-02-20 16:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Evie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your stuck, if you tell her your a hypocrite, if you don't and she finds out on her own bigger problem. Honesty is the best policy but can you handle the punishment, losing her? having her cheat on you for revenge? Will you both be able to get over this and never bring it up again? Are you man enough to take responsiblity, you didn't once already, can you do it now??????
2007-02-20 16:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your most likely a Sagiattarius huh?.. Anyways, I think you should come clean.. obviously neither of you have enough respect for each other to be faithful, and what is a relationship if you both dont have respect. I think it would be best if you both went your seperate ways instead of making her feel bad for something that you did but only worse.
2007-02-20 16:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by Hmm... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made that big of a deal over a KISS???? And then you go and do more than that....cheating on your girlfriend when you yell at her for a kiss. That's not right
2007-02-20 16:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by EvilLaughingLeprachaun08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters belong together. If you dont confess you are only making it worse down the line.
2007-02-20 16:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dont tell her than ur an ***,w/o trust its not even a relationship sit her down tell her u need to tell her something remind her of wat happened wit her then just let it out,cause if u dont then it's obvious you dont lov her,cause a relationships main base is trust....good luck asswipe
2007-02-20 16:31:36 · answer #10 · answered by Gollum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋