well me and my ex gf had been together for 2 years,just before crimbo we split up due to are familys hating one another.
well its been along time since we have spoke and her family wont let me see her or speak to her and she is listing to her family becuase like us all know blood before water.
well am off into my army training april and well she has made it clear to me that shes still in love with me but just cant be with me.
i was thinkning of asking her to marry me after i finsh my army training (12 weeks training)
i know it might put some persure on her but she and me have always spoke about getting married and having kids and a house.
shes always dropped hits wen walking past rings in the window's
its just it is going to be a shock for her to c me just coiming out in the blue with my army uniform on and askin for her to marry me!!
before i ask her ill explan my feelings to what has happen and to what am feeling now.i wont get to ask her for another 3-4 months
helppppppppp
2007-02-20 08:20:25 · 7 answers · asked by killergibbo1111 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You seem a bit young and vulnerable.
If you guys have already broken up, then leave it a t that. I realize that you are desperate, but coming back out of the blue and ask her to marry you after 12 weeks of no communication is risque and too harsh, She might have moved on by then and turn you down.
My advice: Go to training and experiment Army life. Ar,y life is difficult and you will be sent good Lord knows where after Basic Training. This life may ne too much for a young lady being away from family and friends. My suggestion is to go to training, get to your new duty station and make new friends before deciding what to do. Joining the Army is a life changing experience and you may not be able to keep your promises. You will change a person, the Army will make you a different guy. Becoming a soldier will change your world, open your mind and mature you. You will get enourmous opportunities and have plenty of experiences that otherwise you wouldn't be able to have. I've been involved with the military for 10 years, trust me, I know.
Againg, go to basic, get to your new duty station and then survey if your ex-gf still have the same feelings for you, and likewise.
Good luck
2007-02-20 08:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say wait. You sound young. Go to the Army training. You will be introduced to a whole new world..and you never know...you might find someone else who you will fall in love with as well as her family. Remember...marriage is a lifetime thing. And if she isn't with you because of her family now...what makes you think that she will be with you if she has a ring on her finger?
Don't jump into things. You need to be loved and shown that you are loved. If her family doesn't like your or not. She can't give you that. Again...you sound very young.
Concentrate on your Army training and move on with your life. If she loves you...she will come after you. Mark my words on this.
2007-02-20 09:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by Michele K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the way it sounds, she really cares about you and you care about her. I am currently engaged and we have had some issues with friends at church and family but we loved each other enough that we fought through it and showed everyone that they could NOT split us up. GO FOR IT!!!!!!! From a women's perspective, if she is dropping ANY hints about marriage, she is definatly ready and sounds like you are too. Don't hesitate just DO it. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-02-20 08:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by bctreefrogs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait on the marriage thing. Go do your thing with your training, wait until you get back and then see where it will go. I wouldn't jump into marriage just yet, moreso if she would rather listen to her family anyway. Is that what you want for the rest of you life??
2007-02-20 08:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He´s lonely and needs employer and has likely been dumped by a string of chicks for dishonest on them. He has likely come to the realisation that you've been the finest of them. Sorry, yet its weird and wonderful that he hasn´t considered you for yonks and then makes a call that he needs to point to you that way. Doesnt truly upload up.
2016-12-04 10:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is willing to choose her family over you now, what's it going to be like when you get married or have children? It will be all about her original family, not the one she is making with you...can you honestly deal with that for the rest of your life? Something to think about....
2007-02-20 08:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it man!!!!and best wishes!!!!take her out to a fancy dinner get on one knee in the middle of it and propose man!!!
2007-02-20 08:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by Gollum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋