my son went over to my sisters house and when he came home he said his cousin (age 51/2 ) kissed his butt.. now my sister is having fun with a female because her husband left her .. and my newphew is living in that home with them, my son don't even talk like that , me and my husband don't EVER have sex when he is around,, anyway my son said he's cousin kissed his butt and I don't find it funny.. my nephew is weird i have to say he's mom is busy trying to get a life and his father don't really want to deal with him and he is around my sisiter and her " girlfriend" all the time .. but he had a sleepover this weekend with just my son and I wonder .. what would you do... this is serious ..
2007-02-20 08:05:17 · 7 answers · asked by ladytee 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I'm sorry did I say it was he's cousin .. my sister kid who did this..I can't think right now
2007-02-20 08:09:43 · update #1
Keep your son from going over to your nephew's house as often as possible, or at least from sleeping over. If possible keep a supervised visit, and if your nephew tries anything again, sternly mention that it's not 'polite' to do that.
Then, talk to your sister about this situation and how it makes you feel uncomfortable. Let her know that you don't think her son's behavior is appropriate. Don't be harsh and angry, but be firm. Let her know you won't tolerate her son's behavior and you will not allow her son to kiss your son's butt.
Let your son know that if his cousin, or anyone else for that matter, tries to touch him or kiss him like that to let them know that he does not like it and would like them to stop.
Your nephew is only 5 and a half years old and he probably doesn't understand that his actions aren't acceptable, but nonetheless, this type of behavior should be avoided.
2007-02-20 08:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. I'm a little confused as to why this happened... I truly have nothing against gays and lesbians, but I have often wondered how their children are affected by their actions and choices in life... I would have a talk with your son and see if anything else happened and see if your nephew said anything to him before he did this or after... Maybe you can figure out what was going through both of their minds at that time.. I might even tell your sister what happened and maybe she can talk to your nephew and see what this is about... She must have done something in front of her son and he saw what was going on and thinks it's ok to act out the way he did... Maybe your sister doesn't know that he saw something and you can let her know this happened and she can be more careful... I truly understand your concern about this and if it were me I would be getting down to the bottom of this one way or another.. Just make sure you son knows that he did nothing wrong.. He is so young and is going to be easily convinced that it was normal and it's not... It is great that he trusts you and told you what happened.. Hopefully this helps you in some way.. And I wish you the best of luck
2007-02-20 08:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really want me to answer that one? Without a doubt...call in Social Services at once! You stated about 3-4 situations that really need to be looked into and I would not ever let my son go back to my sister's. There is NO supervision! If she wants to get ugly about it, tell her how you feel and what happened and she should be more concerned with her child than a relationship at this point. Then walk away.
2007-02-20 08:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by snowman68 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would be suspicious of that child being melested. It is normal for kids to be a little sexually curious when they are of oposite sexes but you need to be aware that more than just a healthy curiosity can indicate a child has been melested because then they try to experiment with sex with other children since it was done to them. Be on your gaurd.
2007-02-20 08:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
interesting... don't take it lightly...not these days. protect your child. what i would do is talk to your sister and ask her what happened, if she was around, ask anything. then i wouldn't let my child go over there without me. don't be afraid to speak up and protect your child, we as parents have that responsibility. don't worry about hurting their feeling, just get the facts and go from there. in this situation playing the guess game is not the way to go. good luck and god bless you!
2007-02-20 08:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my son it's not okay, bright it up to my sister so she can tell her own son and watch them carefully because if it continued there won't be anymore sleepovers
2007-02-20 08:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by lata 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats alright with me becauseshe probably was messing with him so oh will
2007-02-20 08:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by Daqwon wifey 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋