i'm with this girl i've been with for over a year now and i have trust issues, shes never cheated on me or anything like that but i still find it really hard to trust her, is this normal? i guess i'm still scared of being hurt, i believe i will trust her over time but for the past year and 2 months ive felt like she could just leave me at any moment. i've had relationships in the past where girls have cheated on me and i've taken it really badly, i deal with break-ups really badly, should i trust her?
2007-02-20 07:58:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you have trust issues with everyone or it is her especially? If you have issues trusting people in general you could talk to a therapist and learn how to overcome this. Trust is EXTREMELY important to a relationship, especially if you want the relationship to grow. Plus it is not good for you emotionally to be so insecure. Talk to a therapist, your pastor, or a good counsellor. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-20 08:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have the issue then yes trust is necessary You should not be in arelationship if you have trust issues, you are only torturing yourself and the other person. It is not fair. you need to work on your self and stay clear of relationships until you are able to accept what comes with relationships and sometimes that may be cheating and getting your feelings hurt. take time to get to know that person before you get together.
2007-02-20 08:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jan l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should trust you!...One thing I've learned over the years is not to worry about the things you can't control...you have no control over anything but how you choose to react to things...you need to start loving yourself, believing you are worth a good and honest relationship and once you are focused on you...if you have someome who is dishonest, you will know they are not worthy of you! Hurt is a part of life and that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger..you have to experience hurt to really understand love...so enjoy the ride...enjoy things while they are good live your life stop worrying because you are wasting valuable time worrying about what if...think positive always what if your girlfriend never hurts you!...Trust is very important but start with you and the rest will fall into place....I promise I used to have a very jealous streak but once I started really loving myself...I now feel if my husband messes up then it's his loss and that allowed me to stop worrying and start enjoying our time together.Sorry so long but jealousy can waste alot of valuable time that could be spent being happy!
2007-02-20 08:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sista-Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is very important in a relationship, unless you want to feel nervous and jealous everytime she doesn't answer every call every time, or talks to another guy that is just a friend. It's obvious that you're really hurt from those past relationships and you have to heal. Just give it time, and talk to your girlfriend about this problem. If she's sweet and loving, it's very likely that she will accomodate to your problem.
2007-02-20 08:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by rockran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your issues are with yourself, not with your girl. You need to grow up a bit. If you feel you can't trust her, even though she has never done anything to suggest she is not trustworthy, then you are lacking in emotional maturity, and should not be involved in an exclusive relationship with anyone right now. Some counselling might help you.
2007-02-20 08:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she hasnt done anything like that to you..i dont see why you shouldnt trust her . like you said you have had bad relationships in the past but what if this girl is the 'one' you need to have trust in your relationship cause believe me thats the key to having a good relationship. if you show her that you dont trust her she might just leave. and do you want that ...no right....learn to trust her and you will see its going to work out.
2007-02-20 08:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, first off, would pray and seek His wisdom in this situation and ask Him to guide you to the right decision. To answer your question if Trust is necessary in a relationship together, Yes it is, and so is forgiveness. There is a limit to the forgiveness and if you're not married yet, then there are other women in mind to look for. If you're married, you need to get her some counseling and it would help to seek a minister's advice.
Hope this helps and may God bless you.
2007-02-20 08:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by jmbarcus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a 4 year relationship where we never lied to each other once, we just split up recently. for the longest time i thought trust was the most important thing in a relationship, and don't get me wrong it is very important. however it is not key, i think compatibility is higher on the ladder.
2007-02-20 08:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont give heart no one can take it. The flipside is sometimes they take it, leave and dont give it back. but if you love her open up a little bit at a time and sit and tell her about this dont say you dont trust her thats a onewat ticket to couch-dome say what you wrote itll help trust me.
~good luck
2007-02-20 08:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by natalie h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She hasn't done anything suspicious has she? You should trust her if she hasn't done anything, it's just that you still have some baggage from previous relationships. Which has lead to insecurity issues with relationships.
2007-02-20 08:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋