Okay! Despite how confusing this may be, please try to follow :D And keep in mind that I'm a guy trying to deal with girls. So-Here's the story....
A few days ago, my best friend (lets say..Anna) had a guy(lets say..Bob) over to her house. Anna doesn't like him, she just thinks he's cute & nice, in a friendly kind of way.
So, my other friend (also one of my best friends...say...Emma) found out. Emma happens to like Bob very much. Anna and Bob used to go out, so now Emma is worried that Anna is trying to get back together with Bob.
Now my part in this is...They both want me on their side!!! What do I do? And also...I tried to tell Anna I didn't want to get involved in it...But being a stupid guy, it ended up with me getting blocked on AIM. Should I call her? What should I doo!!!! I need to know be4 I do something idiotic and stupid. Thanks!
(Btw..Emma and Anna are good friends also)
2007-02-20 07:56:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks guys! Your rock! I see sooo many best answers out there.....Btw, "Anna" just talked to me. Shes not that upset at me. Happy times :D
2007-02-20 08:07:59 · update #1
If you really don't want to have a part in it, don't have ANY part in it. Tell them both that you care for them both, and that you'll be there for them, but that this situation has NOTHING to do with you. You can't affect how anyone feels about anyone else, and the only way to be removed from this is to do it yourself. If that means they get a little cranky at you, so be it. They'll survive. If they stop talking to you, just give them a bit of time to cool off before slowly moving back into being friends as normal again.
If you don't want to be involved, that means you have to be a little rude by not letting them involve you. If they try to talk to you about it, just tell them you understand but you have no opinion. And stick with that.
This is a pride issue between two girls, once it's over they'll likely realize it's not a reflection of you favoring one over the other. It'll blow over eventually.
2007-02-20 08:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If Anna and Bob are just friends then Emma shouldn't have any worries that anna is going to get back together with Bob. Right? Hmmmm. Obviously it didnt work the first time with Anna and Bob so why not let Emma and Bob try it out. Your right just keep silent in the whole thing and tell the girls your not going to be the middle man in this case!
2007-02-20 08:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by beaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you do dont take side. But you could get Anna and Emma together oh you might as well being Bob along for the fun of it after all it is him that should be the middle man.Let them both know your friendship to them is very important to you and you hope their firendship to each other is important to them also and Bob seems to be a friend also so lets not leave him out.Be the meadiater and start the peace talks.
2007-02-20 08:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Tell Anna that you didnt want to get involved because her and Emma are very good friends to you. Try to explain the whole situation and how it would have been best for you not to get involved. Its appearent your friends are very important to you so explain that as well. I hope you dont lose a friend over a fight between 2 of yours. Good Luck and be wise!
2007-02-20 08:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by I<3Apollo Anton Ohno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say emma likes the guy bob alot. You should tell emma to talk to anna and see if its okay for emma to go out with him.
2007-02-20 08:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would call anna and tell her that she needs to work things out with emma and explain to her that she is not interested in bob. tell her you will offer advice but you do not want to have to choose sides because both of them are your good friends. if they were really good friends they wouldn't force you to choose one or the other. or you could tell anna that you understand where she is coming from and where emma is coming from and you don't think that it's fair to have to pick someones side.
2007-02-20 08:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simple, do not take sides and tell them this. "you both are my friends and I will not take sides."
However, be there for them both. Hear their stories and try to help them as best as you can without telling them, oh Anna said this about you, and Emma thinks this.
Just try to be there for both friends.
2007-02-20 08:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have the two girls talk to each other...tell anna that maybe if she wasnt intrested in this guy than why did she invite him over??? emma should relax and ask anna what is up....there is a saying "believe half of what you hear and nothing that you see!!!"
2007-02-20 08:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by kauaichic420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, do Anna and Emma, then you won't have to deal with this soap opera BS. What a waste of time.
2007-02-20 08:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL, I think that you should go for it and do whatever makes you happy and comfortable. I find it very interesting that you like to dress up femme but are not into guys, not many guys are like you. Usually the best things in life are rare! Sounds like you are just really into women right now and want to be surrounded by womanly beauty!
2016-05-23 23:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋