heres the deal... im 13 and so is my boyfriend we have been together for 2 months and things are starting to go down hill. my boyfriend ryan likes my best friend nikki and he left her comments on myspace saying he loves her and pic comments saying she is sexy and hot. and she also left him comments saying his pics are sexi. now what i know is that ryan likes me but love nikki and nikki loves her boyfriend but likes ryan. and i love ryan. I know the obsiouse thing to do is cut ryan but there is a problem i heard ryan was gonna cut me so my sister went and asked him if it was true and he was like "No" and that "people need to start minding their bussness". so i dont know what to do. so here is what i was thinking maybe i should e-mail him and ask him what is going on
see he tells me he loves me but he tells her he loves he more than anyone
and oh yea he has been ignoring me he hasnt emailed me in forever
help
thanks
2007-02-20 07:47:23 · 11 answers · asked by urluvmakesmeweak 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what should i do should i ask him on our 2 month anisersary?
how should i ask him?
over email or on the phone
(cant ask in person no school)
help me please
2007-02-20 07:48:46 · update #1
There is no reason that someone in a relationship should be speaking to another person the way he is speaking to Nikki. Normal friendship is one thing, but saying he loves her or saying she's sexy is crossing the line. He's being disrespectful to you. Self-respect is more important than having a boyfriend, especially if he doesn't know how to treat you (which he obviously doesn't). If you don't learn self-respect now, it's going to be harder when you're older.
Get rid of this jerk and find someone worthy of you.
2007-02-20 07:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you won't like this but all this confusion is because you and he are really too young for such a relationship.You don't know if what you've heard is true and he resents having to explain himself from the comments of others.I would say why not be friends with boys until not only you're a little older but boys need to be a bit older as well.Just because others have b/f or g/f shouldn't make you feel like that's the way for everybody.Be friends and you won't have all this drama.
2007-02-20 07:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what your going through b/c i'm thirteen and my friend tammy has had been in the same situation. you should never email ur boyfriend but to call him so you get a better sense how he feels . and it does seems he is kind of cheating on you. so he technically doesn't only love you but also ur friend and you definately don't want that. and also he called your friend sexy and hot which gives a big clue that he's sooo into her. ppls bf don't call your friends that. but first if nikki and u r bff tell her that that she needs to be honest and say what she thinks of ryan. and wait for a couple of days 2 see if ryan is still flirting with ur friend. if that happens u don't need to think, be the first one to break it off ur relationship with him. you don't want to be his pet
2007-02-20 08:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Peachy Keen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen.. you are too young for a boyfriend... im 16 and even now its young.. and i know how you feel because i use to think i LOVED some guy when i was 13 as well... but time goes by and you realize it was just all childish things.. wait until you get into high school and start to meet guys and get more interested... this is a childish triangle... and hes not worth it cause come on.. he is looking at your BEST FRIEND... you know that if he got teh chance he would go with your friend.. so dont make an idiot of yourself and be the smarter one... leave him, hes obiously not worth it anyway.
2007-02-20 07:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 13 years old...what are you doing trying to have a serious relationship for anyway...
Go out and have fun be an adolescent and stop trying to be "all grown up" because you have a long way to go. Concentrate on school stuff, cause obviously this is taking up way too much of your time...Its also quite obvious you and your friends are not ready for a true relationship stuff!
2007-02-20 07:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is fallin for another girl than obviously he doesnt lov u srry to b so harsh but its just the truth so i would recommend you forget bout him and go for a different guy but take ur time ur only 13 theres no rush to b in a relationship
2007-02-20 07:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by Gollum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK i know exactly what your going through, first you need to ask him if its true. then you need to decide if you believe what he says. third if you don't believe him then break up with him(cause it wont work out if you cant trust him)
2007-02-20 07:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i didnt even read your whole question and i say you should get over him and find someone bigger and better :) if he's doing that at 13 then he will at 19.
2007-02-20 07:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should believe what you are reading,dump his sorry butt,he is a player of the future no doubt at all
2007-02-20 08:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by TOM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him, your waaaaaaaay too young 2 have this kinda drama, and y would you stay with some1 that's telling another gurl he loves her.
2007-02-20 07:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋