if i cheated once, will i do it again?

Question

i had cheated once in my marriage. i like having sex with someone else, but not what it did to my marriage. we are trying to reconcile, with both good and bad days. but i am wondering if given the opportunity if i would do it again. just want to know what other people have gone through, and if a cheater can change his ways. i hope not to get too much bashing, i do that enough myself.

Answer 1

If you have cheated before, you will be more likely to do it again. Just like with any temptation. The best tip I can give you, based on what it says in the Bible is to not put yourself in situations that would tempt you to cheat. Don't be alone with other women, and break off the relationship you had with the other woman. Do thoughtful things for your wife, and always think about her before you think of yourself. You may think this is dumb, but pray and ask Jesus to help you. It's been my experience that he has helped me through many difficult temptations and situations.

Answer 2

If you are one of the few that has truly learned their lesson from cheating then maybe you won't do it again. However, if you are already worried about temptation getting the better of you the next time, you don't sound reformed. If there is even a thought in your head that this could happen again either get therapy or end your marriage. It is not fair for your spouse to have to live with the worry and pain. Not to mention the risk to your spouses health with what you might be bringing home. We learn from our mistakes. If you truly have then don't risk a marriage over sex.

Answer 3

Anyone can change their ways...however the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" came about because the behavior is more frequently repeated than not.

However, I've also known people who cheated and then were filled with guilt and remorse. They didn't realize, prior to doing the deed, how deeply their conscience would beat them up about it. Those people, as far as I know, didn't cheat again.

Will you? Only you can decide that. It's a choice...not an uncontrollable behavior. Just remember, by doing it you okay it to be done to you...and you build up the bad 'karma' that will eventually "come around" and find you.

Answer 4

If you find yourself in a situation where you'll be tempted to cheat, get out fast. Even if it means being rude: there are some things that are more important than good manners, and your spouse should be one of them. If you can help it, don't let yourself be put in a tempting situation in the first place. Don't be alone with someone of the opposite sex (or same sex, depends on your situation), change jobs if you have to, whatever. Just do what it takes to keep yourself faithful. It's harder to do once you've messed up, but it can be done if that is what you want.

Good luck to you and your family!

Answer 5

It's not wrong to be wrong it's wrong to stay wrong, those are some words a very wise man told me, he was also a marriage counselor. Will you cheat again? I sure hope not. Stop beating yourself up for the first time, but never forget how it feels. But before you pull your pecker out, think about this, is this worth losing everything over? If you need excitement in your sex life, get it with your wife....there's too many sex shops with too many things to spice up your sex life to cheat. Role playing is always a winner. Instead of focusing on if you will do it again, focus on saying no, you won't do it again. We all (yes even women) fantasize about other sex partners, but it's up to you not to fulfill them. Beg your wife for forgiveness, then forgive yourself. Good luck, I wish you the best

Answer 6

When you cheat it could be you looking for some kind of fulfillment that lacks in your marriage. Analyze why you cheated, and the way it made you feel. Think of and talk with your hubby diff ways to spice up your marriage, don't be afraid to tell him what you like/want in the bedroom. Ask him to tell you somethings that he may be interested in trying. It's worth a shot...if you feel that you are still looking elsewhere, decide if losing him is worth that brief pleasure you get out of it simply not being him, and imagine your life without him at all.

Answer 7

I'll answer with a question.

Why did you cheat? were you not happy with your wife? MAYBE had some bad arguments? not feeling loved? did you feel unsastified with anything besides sex?

If any were yes.. then it's possible you were just craving attention. It's not an excuse, but maybe a possible reason for straying. If these are reasons, what went wrong the first time? if you know, you can fix and avoid these pitfalls in the future. Communicate with your wife on your feelings about these, because if you don't - it will happen again.

OOOOR, if it was just for sex and you were horny, then yes, you will cheat again

Answer 8

Have you maybe considered counselling to determine why you cheat in the first place? Maybe that could help you and your spouse reconcile.

The saying is "one a cheater, always a cheater" but I'm not sure if I believe that. You have to want to cheat. If you want to cheat, then you are not devoted to your marriage or your spouse and the relationship will fail.

If you want the marriage to work, you have to make it work. Get counselling.

Answer 9

A relationship devoid of believe, is not any relationship in any respect! all people can quite exchange in the event that they prefer to, all of us have made errors and experience sorry approximately some issues we've executed in the previous. So all people can provide up cheating in the event that they heavily desire to. yet with you, that is incredibly not the case. each and every time he cheats on you and you proceed a relationship with him, you're coaching him that if he cheats on you, you will continually be there to take him lower back.

Answer 10

dude u are so dam worng for that i ant no cheater n your girl should not have go throw that kinda stuff but i say if u cheat once u will do it a again thats why dont trust most guys so ma answers yes if u did have the opportunity u would do it again