Do you feel it is wrong to whoop (Not abuse) your child?

Question

Not beating or abusing but an old fashioned whooping. Is it wrong?

Answer 1

No it's not wrong. But spanking is nto teh best method of discipline for every child. Some but not all.

Answer 2

Hitting of any kind, including spanking on the bottom, will only escalate the situation. Your child is probably misbehaving because they feel like they are losing control over their environment in some way. Spanking only takes away more of their perceived control. Although the parent should always remain in control in reality, the child should have some self-perceived control so that they feel like they matter and their opinion matters (ie: would you like a red hat or a blue hat?).
Also, spanking teaches your child that when someone does something that they don't like, they can feel free to hit that person. I have seen this up close several times. Lots of people use the excuse of my parents hit me and I turned out fine. That may be true, but could your relationship with your parents be a little better? I would be willing to bet that your positive characteristics have formed despite of the spanking rather than because of it.
The best way to discipline your child is to take away a privilege that they hold dear. If your 3 year old runs out into the street while playing outside, take them in the house and tell them that they have lost the privilge to play outside for the day because they chose to run in the street after being told not to. Repeat as necessary. after a few days of not getting outside time they will avoid the street like the plague. And this also teaches them that their choices determine what they can and cannot do.

Answer 3

The age old question. Spare the Rod or Spoil the Child. I spare the Rod. I'm sorry, but if my child is being a stinker in the mall, or in the store, I take them home, give them a spanking, and let them know that it's not acceptable to act like that in a public setting. I was told by someone from CYS (or CPS) that an open hand to the bottom of a child is perfectly acceptable. So don't give me that "It's ABUSE!" crap. It's only abuse if you punch them, slap them across the face, or use another object to hit them with.

Answer 4

I'm a 25 year old mother of 3 kids aged 4,2 and 10 days with a degree in child development and no I don't think that it is wrong to whoop your children.

Answer 5

Any form of hitting a child IS abuse. Only those parents with limited intelligence when it comes to raising kids feel the need to spank. It doesn't take much thought or intelligence to smack a child...the apes do it to their offspring all the time. As a human beign I'm just a little bit more intelligent than the apes...in the 21 years my daughter has been on this earth I never felt the need to hit her. No she was not a perfect angel...I just used the brain that God gave me in order to discipline her.

Answer 6

As a parent, you need to make an informed decision on how you discipline your child. Probably about 95% of people on this site will tell you all the great things about spanking. They say "I got spanked and I turned out fine, spare the rod etc." Most will justify it by saying "Spank out of love, not anger or there is a difference between spanking and abuse or only spank them if they are about to touch a hot stove or run into the street." These comments are the most popular ones of pro-spankers. These people seem to think that spanking has to be the only alternative to good behavior.

I am in favor of discipline and believe that you can raise a spoiled, unruly, aggressive, uncontrollable child if you are a permissive parent. These types of parents provide no discipline at all and let their children run the show, give in to them or just have no structure, rules, consequences or consistency. I believe that you can raise children with no spanking. I am against it and we use time-out, removing priviledges or redirection (distracting) for toddlers under 2 years old. It really works for us and we get alot of compliments on how well behaved our children are. They respect us and do not fear us. Spanking is one of the easiest ways for parents because it lets you rule your children through fear.
Pro-spankers raise their children relying on old habits and impulses because that is how they were raised. Their tendency is to have no motivation to learn and improve. They lack child development education, have had no parenting classes and most likely do not work with children professionally. They blame (not spanking) for the state of people today. You can raise a self confident, happy, well behaved child without spanking. Check out the supernanny website or the dr Sears website. They have such great, effective ways of discipline that really work. Hitting just teaches that it is okay to hit and you sure don't want your little child one day as an adult being so angry at you for spanking them. Good luck. The more educated you are on this topic, the best you will be at parenting. Parents who spank seem to lack a bit of intelligence.

Source(s):
Early childcare professional 17 years and a mom of 3.

Answer 7

On the bottom it's fine. We use old fashioned spankings on the bare tush. I am not a believer in the 1 swat thing, if your going to spank, make sure you don't have to do it again. Abuse is defined as leaving marks, like bruises, welts, blisters... other then temporary redness. So as long as your not doing that, your OK.

Answer 8

Self-discipline should be taught from birth. That way, the need for "whooping" is minimized. Of course, this requires dedicated and disciplined parenting.

Answer 9

A crack on the butt with your hand, I don't have a problem with. It is when it gets out of hand or the use of a belt or something similar is wrong. I always use other methods such as time out, talking, taking away a priviledge and so on. I grew up being scared to death of my father and his behavior modification techniques. Not that I did not deserve it sometimes, I just think there are different ways of handling it. I wish he would have sat down and talk to me sometimes instead.

Answer 10

I don't think hitting is ever a good example.

And, what does it solve? I've found I've had better results just by making my child sit than with spanking. I remember my dad getting over zealous with his belt and whooping me until I had welts in my bum...I couldn't even sit. My husband has similar stories with his mom spanking him. It's too easy to take too far.

Don't you remember the saying "Pick on someone your own size." Parents would do better to learn that one again.

http://www.nospank.net/n-q52r.htm

Answer 11

Spankings are not right for all children. Some do not require spankings to understand who is authority. And some children do. But it is not something to be used often and it should never leave any bruises.