how do you feel about getting in a relationship with someone that has two kids?be honest.
2007-02-20 07:26:29 · 20 answers · asked by who knows 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-20 07:31:33 · update #1
Being honest.... I was fine with it...the first two times, and I've never done it again nor would I.
it entirely depends on the people involved, the relationship of the parents, the children, whether games are being played and how complex it all is, but that's the point, it is complex. I couldn't do it again because I suffered so much the first two times and I was so tired afterwards I decided I wanted a different sort of life. For me it wasn't about the kids themselves, but it was about the troubled relationship of the parents, and the second was the relationship of the parents with the children. Both caused me a lot of suffering and there was no right thing I could do.
BTW i don't have kids of my own, which is also a consideration.
2007-02-20 07:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger...in my twenties, I dated a couple of guys that had kids. One guy had a daugher and this other guy had two little boys. The relationships didn't work out for various reasons but not because of the kids. NOW days though, I don't think I'd want to be involved with someone with older kids. Maybe a small child would be okay and if I ended up being their step-mom one day, that would be fine because when I was married, I don't think I could have kids...we tried without success. Well, don't worry about this. When you meet someone that likes YOU, whether or not you have kids will not change the way she feels. Good luck.
2007-02-20 15:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by BRAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly... I was in a relationship with a man on & off for 3 years. At first I didn't mind that he had a daughter because he was a great father but as the relationship became serious his ex started problems. Then it got to a point where I just didn't want to be with someone who was tied down to anyone. Having children is a huge responsisbility that I was no ready for. I was 22 & he was 27 so age definitely plays a role in wether people are ready to settle down. I would not date someone with children again. I never say never but I know I will try to stay away from it. It hurts the children to get close to someone & then not have it work out.
2007-02-20 15:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done it before and its not bad. It can be scary at first but if you really like the girl then you should talk to her when you ask her on a date about the fact that you are a father of 2 wonderful children and explain that you arent looking for a mother for them you are just looking for companionship on your part. She will a.) understand or b.) freak out and run. If answer a is the case then its all gravy if answer b is the case then she wasnt worth your time to begin with. So dating a guy with kids isnt always a bad thing. I married a guy with a kid and then we had two and we got divorced and I found a guy that loves me and both of my little boys. So its all just a matter of time.
2007-02-20 15:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation. You have to investigate the baby mother to see if she's the type of women who causes problems or if she still have feeling for this guys.
If she does, you are going to have major problems with her bc she may be jealous of you.
It's hard to get involved with a guy with two kids bc if you're thinking long term about ur future with him and whether u decide u want to have kids, remember those two are going to be first no matter what and sometimes it can be a bit troubling. Not saying this for all men with kids, but it does happen.
First and foremost, research the baby mama. (LOL)
2007-02-20 15:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by svictor24 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the kids, like if they're a nuisance... babies or something. For instance I was once dating with a older guy who had a kid but she only like three years younger than me so she was "no care" and no hassle and old enough to stay at home alone while we went out and stuff.
2007-02-20 15:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person whether they are mature enough to handle the responsiblity. Make sure the person your interested in knows that your a package deal and the package can't be broken. My man had 3 when we got together.
2007-02-20 15:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like or want kids of my own so we wouldn't work out but it would be the perfect situation for a women who has children of her own.
2007-02-20 15:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by Britni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I dont have kids but as long as the guy is resonsable and he takes care of his kids and doesnt just use me to babysit and i can see that he has mad love for kids then he all right with me
2007-02-20 15:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest that kind of seems like too much baggage for me to handle but if I really liked the guy I'd give it a shot!
2007-02-20 15:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by **Red** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋