I'm a 30 yr old single mother and it seems like all the guys out there these days only want one thing. Does anyone know why that is?
2007-02-20 07:24:52 · 29 answers · asked by allforit420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well honey, men are pigs and yes some are just looking for sex! I don't think I've met one guy that after 3 dates wanted the one thing! I I said most men are pigs but you will find the right guy and he will help take care of you and your kids and eventualy you will have sex! just keep doing what your doing because of you thinking about your kids before yourself you give us women a good reputation!
2007-02-20 07:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jella Bella 25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because they don't have any respect. most guys don't want to settle down with a person who has a kid. it is not that you are doing anything wrong, it is just how it is. keep looking though. you will find someone who is right for you.
if i may, i would like to recommend a song for you to listen to to help being your spirits up. it is called "she didn't have time" by terri clark. i encourage you to check it out. hope this helps. good luck.
i looked on the internet to find the lyrics for you incase you can't find the song. here they are:
Artist/Band: Clark Terri
Lyrics for Song: She Didn't Have Time
Lyrics for Album: Life Goes On
He said goodbye from the edge of the porch
like she'd been some casual friend
he said "your better off with out me
i'm not what you need"
like her momma had said about him
he started the car
pulled out of the drive
didn't waste any time lookin' back
she watched him go
thinkin' even a stranger
would show more compassion than that
she could've cried but she didn't have time
she had a baby to feed
a pink blanket to find
to rock their little one to sleep
she could've laid in bed for hours
giving misery the power
but she didn't have time
she got a sitter, she got a job
'cause she had a promise to keep
her day was a factory and evening survival
at night was exhaustion and sleep
sometimes she felt life was passing her by
and watching was all she could do
her friends said "you gotta get outta the house
and maybe you'll meet someone new"
she could've tried
but she didn't have time
she had a five year old to feed
she had ballet class, piano lessons
and t-ball little league
she could've laid awake for hours
giving lonely nights the power
but she didn't have the time
not time where would she find the time
to trust a man again
not time for that flat tire
a crowded parking lot and then
not time to just have coffee with the man
who got her tired fixed
she was thinking gosh he's handsome
when he asked do you have kids
she could've lied
but she didnt have time
all she said was "she's five"
he said "i saw the car seat I love kids
does she have your eyes?"
and they sat and talked for hours
giving destiny it's power
she could've been afraid
to fall in love that night
but she didn't have time
she could've been afraid
to fall in love that night
but she didn't have time
2007-02-20 15:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I do think in part that its become a bit of a culture thing like off of tv and that where it is now 100% acceptable for free casual sex all the time and the more acceptable it is the more that guys figure great ok I can just go for that why do I need to have relationships when I can just go out and get cheap girls anytime I want.
2007-02-20 15:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For years I've thought that and a huge part of me still does. It was honestly embedded in my head from my older sisters that all men want and expect from women is sexual pleasure. So I never dated, I've always looked down on all men. In my mind always trying to protect myself from them. Yet I was molested as a child, then as a teenager I had to deal with rape. Now, I find it difficult to even want to be with a man..a being in my eyes that's nothing more than a monster.
It's taken a lot for me to trust guys. I have a boyfriend now, took months before I could bring myself to label him as my boyfriend. He's anything but sexual, which often puzzles me. He fully believes in no sexual contact until after marriage. I don't believe in marriage, so yeah. Dilemma if we do want to take this relationship further. I often question my boyfriend, wondering if he's attracted to me at all. I never thought that I would want that type of attention. I guess for years I've labeled all males as sexual monsters, when the time came that I could trust a guy he was anything but sexual. I found one that isn't that sexual, could be his religion or maybe he's just lazy. I often wonder if I should be happy about this. It just leaves me puzzled I thought that's all he would want from me all the time...I was wrong so there are guys out there that aren't only after the sex.
-.-'
2007-02-20 16:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is embedded into our DNA. Testosterone absolutely drives sex drive and as you know most men have it in abundance. Having said that, men that are a little more sophisticated can and do hold their sex drive at bay when the situation is appropriate. It is possible that you should be concerned about the "choices" that you make since you only seem to find the one type.
2007-02-20 15:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This "one thing" you speak of, is it sex?
And guys don't just want sex. They want to be treated like a man and sex is a big part of that. And the easiest to quantify as a result. The rest seems harder for woman to understand (especially nowadays) as it involves subservience. For some reason, most young to middle-aged woman I meet seem to consider the idea of being subservient as being inferior. What they miss is that a man needs to be treated like a king -- so that he can treat her like a queen above all others.
If you treat a man like a king, you have every right to expect to be put on a pedestal. If you try to vie for control and power, you will find yourself being considered only for more base needs.
All men want sex. All men really want to be king.
2007-02-20 15:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Avatar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some might say because they are men...but there are women we are just after one thing.
I believe it has a lot to do with where and how you meet them. Being clear from the get go about what you both want will save you a lot fo heart ache.
Granted some men/woman are snakes and will say what ever you want to hear. Watch yourself and take your time...
2007-02-20 15:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by ~Just A Girl~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ma'am? Guys at that age. are lonely. they wanna recall their Youth. ans they think they can get it, by making the other Guys, feel jealous. I suggest, you look for someone that appreciates you for your Heart. And not let anyone tell you that Sex is a part of it. "Making Love" is. And that can only happen, after you fall in Love. Problem solved!
2007-02-20 15:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Analyze this: Those are only the men to whom women have given them only that one thing.
In other words, men who've met great, smart women realize that there's more in us than just that and, will never again be after "one thing" only.
2007-02-20 15:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by DminiknBonita 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because right now in there life they are letting the little guy think instead of the guy upstairs. Try a different kind of guy.
2007-02-20 15:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋