Well my boyfriend and I have been dating from awhile now (2years and some months) and just two days ago he dropped the big bomb...I told him yes but now everyone in my family has something to say about us being to young...He's 23 and I'm 20???Should I listen to everybody or just go with my heart.....
2007-02-20 06:52:30 · 10 answers · asked by MrS.WilSoN 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go with your heart.
I married at 20, and I didn't feel it was too young. Still married to the same guy, all these years.
2007-02-20 06:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was 23 and I was as well when we were married. My husband was just a few months away from graduating college. So I knew that within a few more months he would have a job that would be able to support the both of us.
I would be concerned with how the two of you would be supporting each other. There's a lot of responsibilities that go along with getting married.
It would be smart to marry when one of you guys has a college degree and have good prospects at a great job. It isn't easy. We had to rely on my husband's parents for a couple of months to make rent until my husband got a job. It was a little scary, he didn't get a job until a couple of months after he graduated. I mean a good company, not a call center or customer serivce job, but he's working in a career-type job.
We had to live with his mom for 3 weeks and that wasn't easy either.
What do you guys plan to do?
It's important for you guys to have a solid plan before you decide to marry. You can be engaged, that's fine, but "WHEN" you guys are getting married, is a big deal.
Think about your finances, think about life/car/rent insurance, think about expenses: gas/electricity/water/cable/phone/food/rent/car/
entertainment.....
I'm going to school on a scholarship, my husband is working, but after all expenses we maybe end up with $300 a month to save for emergencies or just to put in our savings account. But by the time we save that, it'll be time to pay our mattresses which we bought last August. So we'll be back at no debt, but our car is breaking down, so we may have to lease a car which means our car insurance will go up...and that'll be another $500 dollars spent a year...it all adds up.
Marriage is tough, you do have to think about money...it's not all about love and fun. You can't depend on mom and dad as much as you do now.
I'm not saying you're too young, but are you well set to face those issues I just wrote about?
There's a lot to think about...
Then what if you get pregnant? What about medical insurance? What about taking care of the baby, it's expensive! I won't even go there, I'm sure you get the idea.
2007-02-20 15:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Querida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't your families' decision, it is yours. You are the one who is going to have to spend the rest of your life with this man. Do you honestly think you are ready to do that? I married when I was 18, and regretted it. There were a lot of experiences I missed out on by marrying that young. And marriage is not all fun and games either. It's a lot of work to keep a relationship strong. I also strongly advise that when you do get married that you wait several years to have children. You and your husband need to have time to develop your relationship before bringing the responsibility of children into it. Good luck.
2007-02-20 15:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by ldgbt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Sometimes parents actually know what they are talking about. There is nothing wrong with a long engagement. You could agree to marry him, but also agree to give it some time. If you two truly want to be together for the rest of your lives, then what's the rush in getting married?
2007-02-20 15:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go with your heart.. HOpe you watching that new show in Mtv Engaged and underage....
I follow my heart i got marry when i was 21... Will you engage now.. And know if you love this guy very much...has he been there for you when you were down..
If guys love each other and wanted to spend the rest of your life together then you should get marry.. Do you see your self marry to him...? and you can wait to you are 21 to get legally marry... and plan wedding
2007-02-20 15:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for everyone to be scared for you. You guys are young but you have been with him for two years and you should know if he is a good trustworthy guy. If you have no doubts and truly love him with all your heart I say go for it
2007-02-20 14:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not too young, as matter in fact, you guys are old enough.
They might have just think you guys are not experienced enough. Tell them that to get experiences you need to experience things, one of them is a marriage.
2007-02-20 15:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by E A C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to everyone - listen to me. You are too young to know what it is that you need to have a happy long term relationship.
2007-02-20 14:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you still see yourself with this person in 10 years time??
2007-02-20 15:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go w/ ur heart!!!!!!!
if u love him...u should marry him!
2007-02-20 14:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by x0 swim chick 0x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋