Even my parents decide my career. I don't have right to choose. They decide whom i will marry. They are very strict. Even if i come home late by half an hour i have to face an enquiry session!.. i am almost like a prisoner... on the other hand, my friends seem to be enjoying their lives with full freedom.. they decide their own career, roam about with girls, go gome anytime... Life is very boring.. i feel depressed...Where am i leading to? I am under stress.. how can i be normal? please help me.Thank you...
2007-02-20 06:46:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am 22 years old..
2007-02-20 06:54:31 · update #1
try expressing your feelings to your parents. They love you even though it seems like you are living in a prison. Try to show them you are capable of living life on your own and that they don't have to cover your every move. Don't hold back from your parents, tell them how you feel. Be yourself and don't let anyone live your life for you. That is something you could regret for your whole life. Good luck.
2007-02-20 06:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Sean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing - you're 22 years old. You're currently making the choice to let your parents decide these things for you. You have had the choice since you became of legal age to make your own decisions. With each decision made, there are consequences. To decide to go against your parents plan could leave you to do things on your own. Its one way to grow up fast - but you won't have that trapped feeling anymore. However, you might have the feeling of being alone or even helpless, not knowing what you're going to do. When you live under your parents roof, you have to abide by their rules. The way to get away from that is to provide for yourself. Can you do that or are you unable to at this time? You're still pretty young in the grand scheme of things, but I understand that your early 20's are supposed to be the fun years, right? :) Have you talked to your parents about gaining more freedom? Possibly make a deal with them that your grades won't slip if you're given more freedom? Again, you are still young. So go to college, get your degree, and then do what you want to do. By no means should you ever marry anyone you don't love
2007-02-20 07:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Larissa_Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok First off where are you??? Because to some people its silly but to others thats the way of life. I cant say my parents held me "prisoner" but life was hard seeing everyone else doing what they pleased. So i became a rebel an went against them. Not saying you should do that, but you should try to explain to your parents that you could be doing way more than coming home a little late. You could be out doing the unthinkable yes, but at the same time they should trust you an let you live at least a little bit...an at least see how far they can trust you in certain situations. Dont worry i regret being a rebel but then again i went for what i wanted an have what i want for now!
Courtney
i noticed that someone said you were 22 yrs old. If your in the united states get out of your house as soon as you can. LOL
2007-02-20 06:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by courtney m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are 22 years old this is inappropriate of your parents. Everyone should get to decide on their career and marry. You need to get out of their house and live on your own if you are 22. Get yourself a job so you can pay your living expenses. You could move in with a friend so it would cost you less for living expenses. Do not marry who they want you to marry unless you want to. That is just pure nonsense and seems doomed to fail. Switch your career path if you don't like the career they chose for you. You have to love what you do if you want to experience happiness in your job. Good luck. You are a young adult and should NOT be under your parents' control anymore. Go out and make your own life!!
2007-02-20 07:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by cowabunga mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you´re attending college and still living at your parent´s. hmmm probably you´re not an american, but from other country, or should i say you have another heritage that´s not american.... YES!!!
... And about your question let me tell you something: finish your career (you probably are just missing 1-1 1/2 year to finish it) and whether you like it or not it´s better that just quitting it "just because you don´t like it" (you can start something else later).-
And then move on. Get your own place. This kind of living, could be "accepted" if you were a girl, but definitely not if you´re a boy. Man need to be more independent and face the world in a more aggressive way than women-.
It would be hard, but i guess that´s gonna be your way of leaving your childhood and enter the MANHOOD.
2007-02-20 07:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by whothatBE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strict parents can be a good thing...the grass is not always greener on the other side.
But, you should be able to choose your own career. Are they choosing your career or are they telling you no to the one that you want? If they are going to pay for your college they may not want to waste money for you to get a degree in "under water basket weaving". In the end you can have any career that you want.
2007-02-20 07:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by Amy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What religion do you profess? At 22 you could just move out.
Collosians 3:21 advises parents, "YOU fathers, do not be exasperating your children, so that they do not become downhearted." and 23 and 24 go on to state: "Whatever YOU are doing, work at it whole-souled as to Jehovah, and not to men, for YOU know that it is from Jehovah YOU will receive the due reward of the inheritance."
2007-02-20 07:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by mcalhoun333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy, if your over 18, you can do WHATEVER you want. You dont need them to decide for you. If they threaten to cut you off if you do what YOU want to do, then oh well, thats the price you pay for your freedom and happiness. we all have to make it out here on our own, unless someones a spoiled rich kid. You make your own future and set your own path out here in the real world, you just have to decide when your ready to take the leap. Join the military if your interested. Thats what I did, and I got away from everyone and had the time of my life. There are just as many liberals in the military as there are conservatives.
2007-02-20 06:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin S 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are. And your parents may be making your life miserable. However, unless they are abusing your basically stuck until you are old enough to leave. At that point you can be responsible for your own choices.
If you are being abused, report it. Otherwise, hang on for a few more years.
Addition: You say you are 22. At this point you can move out on your own. If you are that miserable, do what it takes to get out.
2007-02-20 06:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by tooteaching 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to find out, GET OUT of their home. You are 22 and have no business there any more. get a job. A one room apartment. Time to grow up and be your own person. You are not a puppy on a leash. Better yet LEAVE THEIR TOWN. What do you think will happen to you? Will you turn to dust? Just do it. Go.
2007-02-20 08:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋