my ex bf sent me anonymous emails apologizing although it's pretty evident the emails are from him. began to small talk to me on aim asking how i've been and what i am up to and stuff like that.
he broke up with me 2 months ago, begged me to leave him alone and wanted nothing to do with me. we had very little contact ever since. what does he want?
the thing is i want him back but he has to pay big time since he hurt me too much. plus, he'll only cherish things he has to fight for big time.
how should i deal with this?
2007-02-20 06:42:40 · 16 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave his sorry a*s alone. what makes you think he won't pull this same sh*t again??
2007-02-20 06:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by kizdrop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wants to be good friends with you for now. Or, he's undecided and he doesn't know whether he wants you back in his life or not. I think that he's going to break your heart again if you give him another chance, and that him wanting you is only temporary and it will pass, and he will break up with you again. You want him to pay big time for hurting you? This is how you can do it: ignore him and give him the cold shoulder. If he happens to ask you to be his girlfriend again, say NO no matter what, even if you want to say yes. This way, he will have realized what a big mistake he made, and he will realize that mistakes like these cannot be forgiven, and that he has learned a big lesson of life.
2007-02-20 06:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have a plan for him. You should be yourself. Think of him as a friend...that is it. No bf, no going back nothing. Just be friends, enjoy the time, talk ...etc. Whatever happened a couple of months ago that made him beg you to leave him, might happen again. You should not hang your future on that; he is not talking to you when he wanted to leave and now that he wants to come back.
If you care about him, then be his friend but you must find someone that wants to be with you period. Once a partner wants out...the urge will come back...just my opinion,
2007-02-20 06:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes u have to make him pay BIGTIME cuz he dumped u for crying out loud god I would get him with his pants down n leave him standing there and walk away pointing n laughing lol....But u want him back so u can't do that but b careful cuz I'm sure the last thing u want is to get hurt.I wouldn't look to far into this yet.It could b that he is trying to make amends and that's it.Ask him out right what he is expecting by contacting u after asking u to leave him alone.Just b straight up.Bye 4 now and good luck
2007-02-20 06:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said yourself, "he will only cherish things he has to fight for". Sometimes one person in a relationship can begin to have feelings of being single again, so they break up. When the other person do as they ask and sets them free, then the one that broke up begins to wonder if they really do want to be free after all. In other words, just knowing we can be free can have the reverse effect of making the one that wanted to be free, not want to go after all. Him emailing you and keeping the subject of getting back together out of the conversation is his way of seeing what you have been up to. To see if you are still gonna be wanting him back. The distance is beginning to make him question if he really does want to be free. Continue to keep your responses to his email short and brief. Do not offer any information as to how you feel. He is needing to know right now where you are with the break up. He is questioning and concerned to see if he has lost you. Keep him at a distant and be evasive and do not always be available to him. He needs to wonder about you and not be so sure of your love for him in order to drive him back to you. . Do this, and in time you will see it works. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-20 07:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he hasnt mentioned getting back together. Thats just that, maybe he just misses the friendship. You may think you want him back now, but in the long run you will be saving yourself the heartache of being dumped again. If you do get bak together ...dont do it anytime soon..make him wait on you..when you are ready..Dont let him think he holds some sort of power over you. GL
2007-02-20 06:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just means that whoever he was with for the past two months ditched him so now he wants you back. Don't be that kind of girl, stand up for yourself and make him work for you. You deserve better, there are so many people out there that wouldn't do that stuff to you. Just be careful.
2007-02-20 06:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be careful about this because he might not want to get back together, he might just want to genuinely see how youre doing. Unless he mentions that he wants to get back with you, dont assume it. And eventually if he does say that, then you need to ask yourself if you have completely forgiven him for what he did to you. Because if you haven't and you can't get past it, then the second time around won't be worth it.
2007-02-20 06:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by Marisa B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just forget him. Find you a new, sexier guy, and rub it in his face. Why would someone beg you to leave them alone? More than likely he just isn't getting enough attention at the moment and thought he would message you to satisfy his needs.
2007-02-20 06:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lived without him for 2 months already....Find a good guy and let this guy be.... Once a heartache, always a heartache....you've already survived so move on.
2007-02-20 06:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by EGOman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play hard to get, of course. Don't be available to him. If he wants to make plans, tell him you have "plans" (hinting that they are with another guy) Yeah, make him suffer.
2007-02-20 06:45:45 · answer #11 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋