Problem with my work mate???

Question

I seem to always disagree with my work colleague,one day we get on fine, the nxt day she is rude and extremely patronising towards me.Today she tried to tell me off-though we're equal!!!

There are other times where we flirt continuously,smiling,stare into each others eyes,emails,body language etc....A few weeks back at a works drinks, she said:

I want to trust you-get to know you better....
What happens at work stays at work....
I want us to get on....
I don't do 1 night stands,I only have proper boyfriends....
Then she asked if we're "cool"???
MEANING???

Another week (at work drink) she just stared at me, I asked her why and she said "I just want to look at you and your funny".The look was all smiles - like checking me out!!!Then she said Are we "cool?"

Whats her game???What she mean by "we cool?"

p.s. there is trouble with her boyfriend of 2 years, as he don't want to commit....colleagues say we have a love/hate thing bwt us+there's tension bwt us..

She said she'd help me get with a girl I like at work-but she's done absolutely nothing!When I mention her, she only replies by saying:yeah,possibly good,maybe.Never encouraging!A SIGN?

Answer 1

in general she's f*#kin with you. Forget her. If she cant be straight forward who needs her...and what happens at work stays at work - translation : I dont want anyone to know.

Answer 2

She is messing with you.
She is a tease.
If she wanted a bf/gf relationship with you it would have developed already.
Besides the mood swings almost have me believing she is a sphyco.
It's not a good idea to have a romantic relationship with anyone at work anyway, so get over her.
She has a bf for 2 years, she isn't going to leave him, she is playing with you because she knows you like her.
I don't see anything in your question that says you have any overwhelming feelings for her, just that she flirts and you flirt back.
Quit getting played. Ignore her.

Answer 3

She is a little nuts. She does not know what she wants for her self. You should maintain the same level of contact with her. Be consistent with your moods. Do not fall into her moods and play her games. It is either going to drive her nuts or she won't even notice. That will help you figure out what she wants by the way she responds to the consistency. P.S. remember you are at work and you need your job. Don't blow it for her. She is not worth it.

Answer 4

HEY, wear a sunshade spectacles SO AS NOT TO STARE INTO EACH OTHERS' EYES. And btw, y do you do that looking at each others' eyes (to find courage, trust, commitment or love??) n why do u flirt with her IF U IN LUV WITH ANOTHER WORKMATE (she think u a PLAYBOY n 'mouth-flower-flower')??
U give me the impression u want to ''ON'' her leh? OF course, previous day, she had asked ''r we cool?'' n today she says ''we equal''(meaning:quits). Correct, is the 'love and hate' things!! Anyway, do you like her? I think she like you. If u abit like her, why have to woo another gal, here is one waiting for your reply. BUT if you dun like her n think can't work out, I advise you not to hurt her also. Not all naughty gals have to be dumped and always fall out of love (they r all daddy's and mummy's daughter). I still abit 'er admire her courage. I believe she love more than you do if u stead her initially. Later, u can't resist her liao, she will make you love her more...hee. BUT IF U DUN LIKE HER, PLS DUN FLIRT AND HURT HER , OK.??. Tell her u treat her as buddy n can't be any relationship as ordinary as this one. Then , dun ask her to woo the gal for u, she is already so sad...poor gal. u huh??!! Then dun ask her out, in case she would thought she has a chance. i muz tell u gals think alot alot one. Muz draw a clear border between ordinary galfrens and the truly one. DUN EXPECT PLATONIC (SIMPLE) FRIENDSHIP BETWEEN GALS AND BOYS. IF U WANT SIMPLE, OTHER NOT SIMPLE. OR EVEN SIMPLE FOR BOTH OF U NOW, YOUR FUTURE GIRLFRIEND OR WIFE ALSO CAN'T THINK U BOTH SIMPLE (BCOS GIRLS THINK ALOT ALOT ONE.. YOUR MUM IS A GD EXAMPLE!) ..ALOT PROBLEM CAN EXIST..
Also, be sincere to the gal u in luv by gettin her email address, hp no. ,n sms nice comforting words, and also cute mms. SLowly, then to going out see show lah, GIVE FLOWERS FOR VALENTINE (DUN BE MISER FOR TAT DAY, WAIT TILL U MARRIED THEN DUN NEED TO GIVE LIAO)...etc. Also get to noe more gals thru match-make agency. Some good gals r shy to take actions mah. gd luck///
PS: WHY U SO LAZY, U A MAN LEH, Y WOO A GAL U STILL NEED PEOPLE'S HELP. THINK U CAN'T FIND ONE TILL U 40 YEARS OLD IF U CONTINUE LIKE TAT...U MUZ BE SINCERE MAH.

Answer 5

Psyco..man stay clear of her. Listen to her answers.. she reminds me of an Ex.. crazy as a bat.. could snap any minute