When my 3yr old step son wakes up in the morning he immediately starts to cry for about an hour. You tell him its time to go to bed (nicely no yelling) he starts to cry. He cries the moment any one leaves our house even guest he doesn’t know. He cries when you drop him off at school and pick him up. He cries over everything. Telling him he will have to go to bed early if he doesn’t stop crying makes it worse. Taking toys or privileges away makes it worse. Recently their mother (6 yr old step daug. also) has decided to not be constantly active in their life's. She has seen them for 5 hrs in the past 1 ½ months, and when he cries he yells for "momma" which I can understand because he misses her. I just need to know how to make the consistent cryin stop. Is this cryin due to his mother not being around? Could this be a form of "child depression” due to his mother’s sudden lack of interest? If so could it be used in a court case? Or is this level of cryin normal?
2007-02-20 06:37:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
divorce is tough on kids of any age, he is not too young to realize what is going on. he has basically lost his mom, i know that you are filling that role now and soon he will be old enough to understand. try to create more of a bond with him if you can. once he finds security with you perhaps things will be better. it doesnt sound like he is being naughty, just confused. i wouldnt punish him. and if he cries when people leave, that could be cause he has had some major figures leave his life. try to become his friend and let him know that you will never leave him. its a tough situation, he is young and it can be frustrating to deal with, and along with the mother you probably have your hands full. just keep your cool and try not to make too many adjustments for him. maybe get a schedule or routine so that he can find some comfort. good luck, just have patience youll do fine. i dont know how a mother could do this to their children to be honest, doesnt sound like she has their best interest in mind, but you asking for help does.
2007-02-20 06:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by loveboatcaptain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have a 2 a million/2 year previous who used to try this, he has stopped. we've a sixteen month previous and that they share a room jointly and, such as you i did no longer choose for him waking up his brother. so we did excatly choose for you're doing now. till it have been given way out of hand!! (he might combat us on getting his pj's on, tub etc) right this is how my husband and that i dealt with it. We discovered that via the time my hubby and that i'm getting abode w/the youngsters after artwork, all we do is consume get bathes achieved and have 30min with them, then this is mattress time. So we began letting wes (my oldest) watch a dora or deigo, despite coach it incredibly is 30 min long in the previous mattress. to loosen up him ( he's maximum possibly drained and struggling with it) we supply him a juice, and popcorn on the top of the movie he's particularly mellow and he then gets an relatively short tale and is tucked in to mattress. it took a week of doing this, yet now my son seems foward to it, this is his night-night habitual. stable good fortune i wish this permits. via the way i by no potential close the door on any of my little ones the two.
2016-10-02 11:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this level of crying is most definitely not normal. What is the mother's problem? Tell her to stay out of his life if she can't be constant in it. It is hurting him and this is probably why he is so upset all the time. If you go to a child psychologist and they tell you the childs crying is because of trauma caused by the mother i'm sur eit could be used in a court case.
2007-02-20 06:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely say this child has some form of separation anxiety. He is clearly in distress and I would follow the other's advice and take him to the doctor. Only they will know what steps to take next.
2007-02-20 06:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by socmum16 ♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
more than likely he is suffering from separation anxiety to an extreme due to the sudden removal of mom in his life. he should be evaluated by a good pediatrician. i wouldn't punish the behavior, this will make it worse. definately seek professional help in this.
2007-02-20 06:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by bella36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my daughter and don't have the answer, but I know how hard it can be on the whole family so if you need support or find the answer you can email me. Good luck.
2007-02-20 06:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately take him to a doctor and get him checked out. It could be a serious problem. He shouldn't cry about everything.
2007-02-20 06:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your doctor now. Some of these signs are signs of Autism.
2007-02-20 06:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe he is bored
2007-02-20 06:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by lovepets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋