The guy I've been seeing for the past 8 months isn't ready to commit just yet because he's focused on starting his own business. We are however best friends, very close & he practically lives at my place, but I'm getting frustrated & trying not to pressure him for a committment but sometimes I can't help it because I'm in love with him.
He tells me that I have no need to worry that he's not going to end the situation but he knows that I will because he knows women. So who is more likely to end the situation?
2007-02-20 06:20:38 · 19 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love him and know you want to be with him forever, what's the rush? You should be supportive of him right now with his business launch, and try to eliminate stress- not add to it!
Putting a time limit on love is not right. It will happen naturally if it's meant to be. If you are so quick to want to 'end the situation' then maybe you need to rethink your motives. Marriage isn't everything!
2007-02-20 06:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are so worried about getting a commitment out of him...sounds like you already have one, just without the ring and a piece of paper.
Maybe he feels that he wants to get his business together so can better provide for you.
As far as who ends it, that's not really something that someone here will be able to answer for you, as no one here knows the answer.
It really could either way, either you will end it because you're frustrated that you're not getting the commitment that you want, or he will end because he's getting frustrated that you won't let it go and keep bringing it up.
If you love him, then just give him time to do what he needs to do before he's ready to move on to the next step.
2007-02-20 06:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by photogrl262000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a toss-up. Either you end it up first because of frustration or he ends it up first because of frustration. You for his not wanting to commit at the time you want a commitment, and him for the situation he finds himself in whenever you bring up the subject.
If you really love him and want a long-term relationship with him, give him some time and ease up on him. He's with you now, isn't he? You're already on the way there. . .
2007-02-20 06:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in almost the same thing. except its been 4 months and there is an x involved. I would say you are more likely to end it than him b/c you are the one that is unsatisfied, as am I. I just havent mustered up the strength yet. you are riding the fence, you want a relationship, he doesnt but u stick around. but ur not happy. tell him what it takes to make you happy, if hes willing to do ot carry on, if not let him go.
2007-02-20 06:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he's playing you like a fiddle. He won't have to end it because he knows you're "so in love with him" and if he's satisfied with the relationship the way it is, why would he change anything. If you need more than he has to offer then I guess you will be the one to end the relationship. I hope (but doubt) your friendship will survive.
2007-02-20 06:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by kmv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..to be honest it sounds like he will because you just admitted that youre in love with him...so i dont see you ending it just yet. You need to ask yourself though whether you can handle this situation the way it is. The only way that you will probably end it is if you feel like you can't handle it..otherwise...i dont think you will be ending it anytime soon, he might.
2007-02-20 06:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Marisa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living almost together, best friends… with benefits? (I would think so too), and probably sharing many other things.
If that is true, then I think the commitment was done already. You two just don’t want to admit it.
Think about it.
2007-02-20 06:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does not having a commitment mean he can see other people....if it does you need to talk so that you can decide if you want to stick around.
In my opinion....no commitment no practically living at my place.
2007-02-20 06:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's seeing somebody else and quite conflicted approximately her emotions. undesirable information. additionally you artwork together with her so there is not any getting far flung from it if issues bypass badly. greater undesirable information. stay some distance far flung from that.
2016-10-16 02:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are of course. You are the one who is INSECURE in the relationship and want to pressure him into as you say a COMMITTMENT.
2007-02-20 06:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋