I am in middle school, and all the other kids are dating, or at least have "boyfriends" and "girlfriends" and it is so unfair. I would actually love to have either, but my father won't let me date, or even talk on the phone (with girls). He makes fun of some of my guy friends. He says he has known I was different for a while, whatever that means. How young is too young to act on your feelings for others? Is my dad wrong?
2007-02-20 06:09:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're almost too old.
Just kidding. No, you're not too young, but start with the opposite gender.
2007-02-20 06:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by heartscared 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had my first boyfriend when I was in middle school & there's nothing wrong with feeling the way you feel or for wanting to have a girlfriend, but that isn't something that you should be worried about right now. You are still very young and have plenty of time. Your father sounds like he cares enough for you to know that you are much to young to have the experiences that take place between boys & girls and men & women. Focus on school and trust me girls/women/& relationships will all come in time.
2007-02-20 06:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by geminig 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I don't think you need to date right now, honestly I would just sit back and wait until you at least have a car, that makes dating a lot easier. But I do think it is a little harsh that your dad won't even let you talk on the phone with girls but you cannot help your feelings for others, especially girls.
2007-02-20 06:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by nickhawkins21 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u will have feelings 4 ppl in middle school, everyone does. but u dont seem to have ur eye on someone, u have ur eye on anyone. u cant really date in middle school cuz u cant drive or dont have a job to pay for a date. having a boyfriend or girlfriend in middle school really is kinda lame. i actually had more fun talking about boys and flirting w/ all of them than when i had a boyfriend at that age. a real date when u get older is much better, so just chillout n wait a few more years!
2007-02-20 06:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by March Mommie 07 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how old you are . Parents at some point a little protective and not allow teenagers to do their own thing like dating because of how old we maybe and want to protect us but the truth is that your dad can not protect you forever you will see thing you have never seen , hear things you have never heard, done things you have never done, it seems you dad might be insinuating that you are gay just because of you having friends that are the same sex as you are. Maybe you should talk to your dad and find out why he feels the way that he does and see if he will be willing to come up with a compromise that you and him can handle. Good Luck
2007-02-20 06:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This makes me sooooo mad. Okay, if you are in sixth grade, like 11 yrs old, then ya ur too young. But a fourteen year old in eighth grade is NOT too young most of the time. What makes me mad is that a lot of you people on here are like "u are too young" but what the crap?? you don't know me, you don't know my personality, you don't know my religion, you don't know my maturity level. fact is, YOU DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT ME! So who are you to tell me that I am too young? Everybody always groups 14 year old girls with the 6th graders since they go to school together. GET THIS: I am not an immature 6th grader who has crushes and giggles with her friends and plays dolls and are just getting out of that stage where "boys are gross". Okay? So you don't have a right to tell me that. I believe I am mature enough to have a relationship, and I am not in it for the physical aspect. And who are you to tell me that it's not "real love"?? Only I know that in my heart--duh! You don't know my heart, you don't know if I have 'real love' or not! ONLY I can decide if it is 'real love' or not. Okay??
As for your questions, my parents are the same except I'm allowed to have guys as friends. Just tell your dad how you feel and ask him to set a specific time for when you will be allowed to date and ask him to compromise a little for you, like ask if you can start in eighth, unless you are in eighth, then ask if you can start in ninth.
2007-02-20 06:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by horsesareforever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime fathers don't know how to handle things with girls. There is more to life than dating. Find out about life first as young as you sound boys are only going to hurt you. Set your goals on what you want in life.
2007-02-20 06:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now missy, society has blinded us as well as has pushed us into things we are not ready for. Take ur time, enjoy friends, enjoy being young and free. Relationships puts much constraint & restrictions on life ...and ur too young for that. Sneaking around behind ur parents back will only stick you in the end. Be fair to ur self and give ur self time to find out who you r before trying to become something for someone else.
2007-02-20 06:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by Dee P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound totally confused. Which leads me to believe you are too young. Just chill out you will have plenty of time for relationships later in life.
2007-02-20 06:18:41 · answer #9 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Im in 5th grade and im allowed to date! Just make it clear to him why you want to date. just don't use the, "but other kids can" if he still says no, wait a while and ask again. but dont turn your parents on each other. That will make it worse.
2007-02-20 06:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋