He also tries to control how I spend my money. He'd rather buy weed, were I'd rather get gas or medicine.
2007-02-20 06:05:35 · 47 answers · asked by sandnickel2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should stop the abuse. that's how every abusive relationship starts... My bf was the same. he was threatening me at first and i took it as a joke, but then he started checking on me all the time and imposing restrictions and afterwards hitting me. he didn't stop until my folks enerveened..
don't stay in such a relationship. the hitting will continue,more and more frequent.
it's not normal. you have your rights. as we all do.
and besides, if he doesn't feel allright with you he should just get the hell out, not try to force his way.
2007-02-20 06:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Madeline 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your boyfriend hit you once and would rather buy weed then buy something he might need then you have a choice to make stay and let him continue to physical abuse you and you wind up in a body bag or leave him and let him do his own thing since he does it anyway, If you let him control what you can do and can't do and allow him to tell you where can and can not go then you are allowing him to control your life and that is not any way to live, if you want a better life for yourself and get the treatment and respect that you deserve then it is time you moved on a found true happiness.
2007-02-20 06:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a true believer that if my man hits me just once I am leaving because just once is one time too many. And if your boyfriend really loved you he wouldn’t have hit you the first time or be threatening you. Also buying weed is illegal and not the smartest thing to do with your money. If he keeps trying to control how you spend your money you really need to move on. But the fact that he hit you should have had you running already.
2007-02-20 06:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this answer is really obvious, but a lot harder to do in real life....YES YOU SHOULD DUMP HIM!!!! DO NOT PASS GO DO NOT COLLECT TWO HUNDRED DOLLARS, JUST GO!!!!!! This is not a man! A man would have more respect then to ever hit a lady, more common sense on the proper way to spend money, and threats are for insecure losers. You deserve WAY BETTER! Get rid of him and get your butt to a safe place where you can work on why you would find this kind of behavior acceptable in your life! Then you can move on and find a real man who will know how to treat a lady. :)
Don't hesitate just go! All abusers say they will not do it again, but sister don't kid yourself, they will!!!! Would you want him to hit your kids? If you let it go that far in the relationship that is exactly what will happen.
2007-02-20 06:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by marah p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd provide him yet another probability, because of the fact if he became into abusive, he would have already hit you the 1st 300 and sixty 5 days you have been married or maybe 2 a million/2 yrs in the past. My ex became into abusive and he hit me in the 6 months of our marriage, and mentioned he does no longer do it lower back yet did it lower back months later. that is no longer your project. 3 years have long previous by ability of. would it not sparkling that he's right, it is going to never ensue lower back because of the fact if it does, promise him which you will report a domestics violence expenditures against him. rules are changing with companion and infants violences. So carry him to his promise. As you will carry to yours. 2) Take some time going lower back and tell him the only way you will bypass lower back is that if he has a house of your guy or woman to bypass lower back to for you and your women. in any different case, stay positioned.
2016-11-24 20:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by quest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy that hits a women should get a taste of his own medicine. If i was your guy friend I'd kick his ***.
My advice for you is to end the relationship it could only get worse. But do in a public place he sounds like the type of guy that might snap if you break up. For the money thing you made it you control it.
2007-02-20 06:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Soul Survivor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the hell out i've been through that too and the best thing to do is leave you deserve better mine would'nt even let me call my family he hit me each ti me he said he was sorry once they hit you they always will telling you they are sorry is only so you will stay he may stop for awhile but it will always happen again he cut me with a knife and sold drugs as well i ended up paying the bills but when he got money he just bought more drugs everything we had was stolen cable food gas for the car that his friend gave us our tv speakers and tape player as well just leave i did he can't hurt anyone now because he passed away he got sick his body just broke down for no reason after i left god will do the rest if you leave
2007-02-20 06:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way darlin'. First of all let me let you in on a little secret, guys who are violent and controling are not interested in loving you, all they want is someone to control because what they want is power. To lose temper is was thing, to yell scream and get angery happens to everybody... but not to hit and defenitly not threating the one your with. I had a friend in similar situation, but she did not want to listen... not until he raped her. But by then the damage was done, and not just physicaly and sexualy. He was beginniing to own her mind and heart. I would never wish that upon anybody, and unfortunatly that is what controling people want in relationships, not a partner but a slave. I've seen in my personal life and in my time as an mp. I would strongly urge you to leave him.
2007-02-20 06:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by Smurfy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u two obviously have different priority's so u should leave him and I've been with this type of guy before he will swear up and down that he will never hit you again but u best believe if he did it once he will do it again!! and the next time it will Be worse hold yourself on a pedestal baby girl and get over him be with someone that treats you like a queen not like an animal!
2007-02-20 06:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by glossy-n-fly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you stay, he'll hit you again. He could even put you in the hospital or kill you. Don't believe him when he says it won't happen again, all abusive people say that so that the other person will stay with them.. LEAVE now or you'll regret it. Get a restraining order, too. This is very serious, so take it very serious.
2007-02-20 06:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋