my mom and dad are gettin a divorce...guys i start talkin to get freaked out about my bro..me and him are rly close and are always together..but guys get freaked out cuz hes gay and dont want anything to with me, But now i think i found someone..his name is Noah, but theres this girl he supposely only best friends with but to me it seems a lil more...theres more details with that...should i believe they are only friends...i love noah with all my heart and i dont want to lose him...also hes not big on family but im a big family person...hes from a foster family and they werent real good to him..so he says he never had a family and doesnt need one now...thats a problem cuz if me and him are gonna be together he has to have somethin to do with my mom cuz me and my mom are extremely close...what do i do??
2007-02-20 06:01:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relax. There's too much in your life going on right now to be worrying a lot about another relationship. Get yourself to a stable happy place and don't sweat this one particular boy.
2007-02-20 06:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Im sorry your in this situation - maybe I can help. First, dont even bother with a guy who gets freaked out only because your parents are getting a divorced and because your brother is gay. Closed minded people like that arent worth your time. Secondly, if Noah says he is just best friends with this girl then you have to trust him. I know it is hard, but if you love him as much as you say then he deserves that much atleast. Lastly, Noah has never had a family - not a loving, caring one - so he isnt going to be all for family events and parties. That doesnt mean he cant learn to love your mom though. Introduce them, maybe with some other friends around to make him feel comfortable, allow he and your mom to have a conversation. Maybe tell your mom before hand things he enjoys, and tell him stuff your mom enjoys so awkward silences arent a problem.
Good Luck
Im sorry your goin through sucha hard time
2007-02-20 14:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love Noah with all your heart, then you would tell him what you are going through, and if he understands then he is the one for you!!! If you think that your mom and dads divorce is getting in the way, then you should wait for Noah, and be there for your mom, because really she is going through a lot more than you think! It may not show, but she really is!!! And dont let any guy come between you and your brother, because you dont know what can happen!!!
2007-02-20 14:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by smith_kallissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young, if your worried about guys reacting to your gay brother, thats because these guys you are dating are young and just dont understand homosexuality. Dont worry within time guys get over this you and will have no troubles.
Stop stressing so hard, stressing give you wrinkles!!
2007-02-20 14:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really gotta decide what is important for you, you also need to understand he might be scared to get close to any one because he was in a foster home, it may take him awhile, you need to be patient, if you really wanna be with him. I agree that family is important, good luck.
2007-02-20 14:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by shorte716 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel bad about the boyfriend part and just confront him and tell him how u feel because besides how else would u find out also try to find out both sides of the story. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-20 14:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by hello 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋