My 6-year-old daughter is very smart.She knows the truth about "where babies come from" in details(appropriate for older children) but she easily assimilates them.She reads books about these things and is very interested in it already 1 year.Recently she asks me what 'oral sex' means.She knows how standard sex is being made but I think she is a bit too young to be explained the oral one.It may be disgurting for her.How do I explain it without making it disgusting?
2007-02-20 05:57:09 · 26 answers · asked by Kayly 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You must be kidding. There is no WAY a 6 year old needs to know what oral sex is. It is YOUR responsibilty to ensure the reading materail and tv shows she has access to are approriate.
Get a brain
2007-02-20 06:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
He is doing it to get a reaction. In order to stop him, everyone in the house would have to not pay attention to it at all. It's pretty difficult to get a 10 year old and a 13 year old not to laugh at something like that. Just let him run around and make everyone laugh with it for awhile and eventually they will stop thinking it's funny and Kris will give up because he's not getting the reaction anymore. Later, after everything has quieted down and Kris is the only one around you can tell him it's not good to say those things.
2016-05-23 23:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to know whatever happened to letting your children enjoy the innocence of childhood?? I'm all for being honest with my kids and answering their questions with the truth - but the answers need to be AGE APPROPRIATE!!! Wow - she is way too young to even know that there is such a thing as oral sex - where did she even hear the term oral sex?? I guess now that she has asked you have to answer her. Whenever my kids ask me sex questions I answer honestly but with as little information as I can - and I continue to answer the questions until their curiosity is satisfied - I don't want to give them more information than they are ready for. Maybe tell her that oral sex is sex with your mouth - I don't know - I don't think there's an easy way to explain this one.
2007-02-20 09:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to stop watching Monty Python in front of her... ;)
I think this is kind of funny. My oldest daughter walked in the room years ago (around age 8-9) while we were watching MP & the Holy Grail.... just as the line, "First a spanking, and then... the oral sex!" was said. Of course the first thing she said was, "What's 'oral sex'?"
We are very open with our children, but this was definitely a case of too much, too soon. We gave her the ol' "You'll find out when you're older" schpiel. They don't need a full-blown (oops! was that a pun?!) explanation.
2007-02-20 06:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by LaundryGirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's time to set the boundaries for certain questions with her. Perhaps telling her that that is something she needs to wait until she's older to learn when she is in love with someone special. Or simply that you want to save that conversation for a special time when she is older.
It's wonderful that you have such an inquisitive child, but as intelligent as she is, she needs to understand that there are things you learn at different times in life, and that at this stage in hers, it may be more important for her to learn stuff that will enrich her life NOW, like a love for music, history, or about animals!
One more thought (not to scare you)....
If she is coming up with sexual questions at her age without you exposing her to these words, you may want to figure out where she's picking this stuff up. This sort of stuff from a little girl at her age might be considered a red flag for sexual abuse going on outside of the home.
2007-02-20 07:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by sweetnytmare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously?! I have a 6 year old, and can't imagine having this conversation! Where could she have heard about oral sex? Why are you letting her read books on this subject? I can understand her having an interest, but she should not know about these things at this age! What if she tells the kids at school? I wouldn't want my son to hear about that in school from a fellow 1st grader!
2007-02-20 06:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mary 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
tell her straight up that she doesn't need to know that right now. tell her that you understand that she finds it interesting, but if she is as smart as you say she is, she will understand that she needs to wait a few more years before having that explained to her. being honest with her will always keep her coming back to you for answers. tell her that you will explain it to her someday, but not at the age of six. let her know the appropriate age when people start having sex, and that it is done when you get married (or should be) and when she is old enough, she can know all the details, but for now, tell her to focus on being a kid, and having fun, not wondering about adult stuff that isn't appropriate for her right now.
2007-02-23 11:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, my 6 & 7 year olds just learned the proper names for male/female parts. And they thought it was hilarious. They know how babies come out, but having this conversation with a 6 year old is way out of the question. And why are you letting her read these books????? Most 6 yo's can read, but the words for some of this, no little kid should even know! You don't explain it, you need to let her be and quit letting her read this crap.
2007-02-20 06:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you allowing your child to read inappropriate material? At 6 she should not know how to have sex..unless someone was teaching her in order to use her for their own sexual pleasure. I can't imagine how you are raising this child in order for her at 6 to even ASK what oral sex is. Sounds to me as if she has learned about it in the home, since this is where the majority of learning before the age of 5 comes from.
2007-02-20 18:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I don't think she should be able to get her hands on books about sex (unless they were made for 6 year olds). Get that material out of her range and don't even try to explain oral sex to her. She's 6 - out of sight, out of mind. Dont let her read any more right now and soon she'll be interested in something else.
2007-02-20 06:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by aaja 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A bit to young to be explained oral??? She shouldn't even know what sex is at her age. To me this is bad parenting, she's a child let her be a child. Children learn from parents.They watch what parents do and say. you can't explain this to a 6 year old without it being disgusting. You shouldn't be explaining it to a 6 year old at all.
2007-02-20 07:28:26 · answer #11 · answered by honeydew4514 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋