I have tried many different avenues, and have come up with the results, of losers and controlling men. Are there any decent men out there, who one day want to be married and have a family? I'm not saying i want an "add water" family but someone to go camping with, to travel,or just relax and talk and watch movies or sports. Is it me? Im not hard to please, im not in to someone for their appearances, i just want to have a meaningful conversation and enjoy his company. Is there any hope?
2007-02-20 05:55:25 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sure. you have to stop and listen to what is going on around you. First, I'd bet you are attractive. this scares a lot of the nice guys off. Next, I'd say because of this you are attracting the jerks and married guys. Seems to happen a lot to attractive women.
Here is what you need to do to meet guys. wear a sweatshirt, jeans and sneakers when you go out. Look cute but not too cute. this will give the avaerge Joe the courage to take a chance. Look for a guy who opens doors for people and will hold them open for someone coming up. Not because he has to but because he thinks it's the right thing to do.
If you want a family guy, find one who waves or makes faces at other peoples babies. He may be a little pudgy but he will worship you.
a few years ago I would have been the guy you were looking for but someone else found me first. IM me sometime.
2007-02-20 06:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well is there any hope, lets see???? hummm. I don't know what you have been doing to meet these men, but I am thinking maybe you can just lay low, and become a few peoples friends first, i mean women and men alike, because you know they say that love often comes to us when we are turned the other cheek. In other words, we are busy enjoying life in general, and experiencing all it has to offer. By having these positive experiences and loving ourselves, meaning enjoying our own company, these men, will most likely be drawn to your positivity and SELF confidence. I truly believe this it is so true, not to sound like a text book! but Live life, enjoy life, breath life, and a GREAT life will follow. Maybe after a while, after giving those friends a few years to get to know you, you will find that you and one of those friends within the group are reaaly meant for eachother and would like to be more than friends. This is how i usually made great relationships. Also remember that when relationships don't work out, they are not a total lose if you learned little things that you do and do not like in a relationship. Good luck and don't wait for the moment make the moment!
2007-02-20 14:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel you! I thought the same once,I didn't understand why all my relationships failed,guys never had jobs, had addictions, wanted only sex! I was obviously making the wrong choices. The first step, in my opinion to a good relationship is loving yourself. IF you dont love yourself,as I didn't,you tend to look for that guy to make you happy when you should only depend on you. If you respect yourself and except the bads with the goods the hardest part is over. I discovered that the more you look for a relationship the less it is likely to show up. Learn to enjoy being single and the freedom, take the goods from it and just when you are forget about needed a decent guy to make you happy he will fall in your lap attracted to your self confidence and knowing that you dint need him but would like him in your life. Also I think respect and loyalty are most important,girls also tend to be insecure,I guarantee if you keep busy and even over do it a little by not tripping out about where he is and who he is with he will want to spend more time with you and that is when you got him. Even when you might have these insecurities arise,never let him see,cause that is when he has won the "game" of guys and women get broken hearted!
2007-02-20 14:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by yessca333 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've often asked myself the same thing. I think in our fast paced technological world, people want instant gratification.
This shows in all aspects of our lives including dating.
Unfortunately, like yourself, I'm looking for something a little more meaningful. So far I haven't had much success, but I'm optimistic that I will find someone, I just hope there not already married!
Hang in there, we're all in this together.
2007-02-20 14:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Diamond24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to find an acceptable man. Just be patient. You can't force it. My only advice is to stop looking and he'll show.
Or you could make a wish on the full moon, write with a gold pen on a white sheet of paper that you, "Want to meet the man that will be the father of my children before the next full moon." Fold the paper and put it under a book or something. Wait and see. That's what I did and I met my husband 10 days later. :)
2007-02-20 14:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up your standards. If you "settle", to avoid being lonely, you'll be just another statistic of a failed relationship. There are nice guys out there. My wife and I have been together for 15 years. we hold hands when we walk and sometimes a quiet night on the sofa with a glass of wine is all we need. Patience is required however. I used to think there were no "nice" girls. So yeah! There is hope. Never give up. If you want it, it will come.
2007-02-20 14:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by Boffobill 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There IS hope. If you are not finding the type of man you want in the places you go, start going to the places the man you want to meet would be. You may need to go camping to meet a man who loves camping, etc. Don't give up. Somewhere there is a man who really wants to meet you. Don't settle for less.
2007-02-20 14:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by dbake50 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's takes a long time to find the right person so have patience and eventually it will happen for you. Do not lower your standards or settle for someone who isn't exactly what you want/need for you in your life to make you happy. There are decent guys and you will find one, be patient and if you do so then pray.
Take Care,
Tori
2007-02-20 14:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Incognito 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's true that you won't find someone if you're looking for them.
Get involved in things that interest you- the outdoors, movies, sporting events with friends and you'll be surprised at the people you can meet if you are approachable. It will happen when you are ready, and not waiting. This is your only life- LIVE IT!
2007-02-20 14:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is hope(at least i hope so,lol) because there are men out there searching for the same thing.
it may be the ones you chose, or what you find attractive that is bringing you the wong type.
then again it may just be bad luck. we all just keep trying and hope we find the right one someday. don't give up hope
best of luck to you
2007-02-20 14:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by randini692000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋