I have a 3 yr. old who has the attitude of a 13 yr. iold & I can't get her to stop being so hateful & smart with me, she even does it to my husband sometimes. But mostly me & I can't understand why. We don't talk to her like that. Could this be a result of sibling jealousy? We also have a 3 month old daughter.
2007-02-20 05:52:18 · 3 answers · asked by jadynzmd 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have a 4 year old son and a 6 month old daughter, and we too are having a similar problem. My 4 year old can be so snotty sometimes and he'll stomp all the way to time-out. BUT things are getting better, because we've been consistent with his punishments. It's usually quite simple, we ask him to say, put his toys away before dinner and he'll start in with the NOOOOO, it's not FAIR...
So here's how we deal with it:
One warning, "You need to pick up your toys with a GOOD attitude or you will sit on the naughty step"
Continues, "Go sit on the naughty step, I'll come talk to you in 4 minutes"
AFTER 4 minutes (time does not start until he is sitting quietly), "Why did you have to sit on the naughty step? What do you need to do?"
He needs to give an apology (while looking me in the eye) and it has to be specific, "I'm sorry for not listening and picking up"
Finally, he still has to go pick up with a good attitude or the whole process starts over again.
He has a smiley face chart with 3 smiley faces on it, in the morning he starts with all 3, each time he has a time-out he has to cross off a smiley face. At the end of the day he can pick out a sticker or a stamp for each smiley face he has left.
When we started this system he was lucky to have any smileys left, but now he consistently has at least 2 left. If you work at it you can solve any behavior problems :)
2007-02-20 06:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without much more information this is just a guess, but it does sound like an old story. Do you discipline her? I don't mean a "2 minute time out", I mean stay in your room and no toys, dvds, treats, no anything?? For AT LEAST 1/2 to 1 hour. She obviously doesn't consider you any threat. With your husband she is less likely to be nasty because he's bigger than you and probably doesn't deal with her quite the same way. You have to remember who is the boss. No hitting necessary but make it clear you will not tolerate that attitude. Believe me, 3 is old enough to understand exactly what they are doing.
2007-02-20 06:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by scarlettrhett 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as a mom or dad , you should thought them in a strictly manner, do not scold them for what that they have done , but just raise up your voice not to loud and be serious. for certain time try to appreciate them or give something to cheer them up
2007-02-20 06:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by dadakosupremesiot 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋