Im 21 years old and me and my girlfriend have been going out for a year now. The past few months things just havent been the same like when we first started dating. She doesnt pay that much attention to me and we wont talk on the phone for a long time like we used to. I know she still loves me its just that it feels like shes bored with the relationship or something.We work together and it sucks when i see her talking to some other guys joking around all laughing and what not and she wont play around with me like that. I kept getting upset about it and i talked to her and she said i was being a baby and that shes "sorry" shes not devoting every minute to me and that things arent the same like when we first started dating.....i dont even know what that means because i know she still loves me so i guess shes just not as emotional about it anymore....maybe im still stuck in the "honeymoon" stage of the relationship....i dont know if anyone could give me any advice please do! Thank You
2007-02-20 05:49:55 · 16 answers · asked by Jack D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i did talk to her about it and she thinks im being a baby.....she doesnt flirt with guys she just talks to like 1 or 2 and not even that often....she doesnt go anywhere without me she tells me she loves me every day and shes so glad she has me in her life and we are also about to move out sooo i dont know maybe i just need to not be so emotional....
2007-02-20 06:04:50 · update #1
I would really consider talking to her about this. Don't get territorial and say, "Well, you laugh with other guys." Just gently point out that things seem to have changed between the two of you and you're just wondering if she feels the same for you as she did before. It can be a difficult topic to bring up, so really think about it ahead of time.
Also, you might suggest the two of you just taking some time off together. It can be a little vacation or just a day to yourselves where you don't have to worry about anyone or anything else.
2007-02-20 05:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that's happening, it happens to most relationships I think. And maybe your one of the few that never want the passion to die and there is nothing wrong with that but there doesn't seem to be alot of people out there that want to try their best to keep the passion and happiness completely alive.
Try doing a couple spontanious or romantic things for her to see if you can livin things up for awhile. Talk to her after that about keeping it going.
I hope you work things out. Good luck!
Ps. Thought of a couple things you could do! Me and an ex of mine worked together for the 2 years we were together. We had lockers to keep our stuff in...we would always leave notes for each other in the others locker. Love notes, poems, and messeges saying to call the other after work or come see the other before they leave. Try getting something like that started.
2007-02-20 06:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the relationship is up and down.. first u are want to talk more, want to know her more, so excited want to hang out more.. but when u both know each other the relationship be cold because of the busy life... believe me.. if she still loves u then don't worry..
u must to give her the freedom to do what she wants...
u must to control her tell that i want to spend more time for u... if u feel that the relationship get boring that mean need refresh.. go somewhere u didn't go before see her in different ways... go to club...
believe me if u said her don't do that she will do it to tease u.. tell her i prefer to not do this but if u want as u want.. she will understand she is grow up and can decide what is wrong what is bad... good luck...
2007-02-20 05:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for some relationships not all, I wish there was a textbook, well I suppose there is somewhere, written by some ugly guy or girl who thinks they know alot of relationships...
But truth is, only she really knows...and every girl is different...I use to love the girl who would tell white lies so she wouldn't hurt me...but now I love the girl who's direct....so which one is she? If she's the direct type, maybe she's telling you something...
2007-02-20 05:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The era in a relationship what you're relating is conventional as "the honeymoon era"- (the place you're all kissy-kissy and lovey-dovey with one yet another), and on your case, that is of course over, and now, your relationship'll address a much greater sensible high quality and consider-element. no longer something to be anxious approximately by any ability, my old son- (that occurs in maximum relationships, mate!) regardless of the undeniable fact that, it is likewise while the bloody arguments tend to start- (while ya provide up finding at one yet another by rose-tinted glasses, and ya start to work out that possibly your different 0.5 has have been given faults and that they ain't as appropriate as ya as quickly as theory they became into, and vice-versa!)
2016-11-24 20:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sure everyone in the office knows that you are carrying on a relationship with her & she just wants guys to know that your relationship with her does not stop her from being friends with her. maybe she does not pay much attention to you in the office cuz she does not want to be lovey-dovey with you there simply cuz it's an office. and maybe you ran out of things to talk about that's why you don't talk long on the phone anymore. or maybe, the magic has faded.
2007-02-20 06:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by babytalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two have grown apart. It happens when you are so young. I would have a serious talk with her to see where she thinks this relationship is going. If she wants to see other guys, then wish her luck and move on.
2007-02-20 05:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by Louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a girl I once dated... She slowly talked to me less,we went out less and had sex less until she finally broke up with me but "still" loved me.
within a week she was with another guy.. has she started canceling dates? or acting strange about things like her purse? cell phone? etc..etc.. if you try to look in/at them? is she sneaking around? disappearing at lunch time? all signs of shes leaving but setting up her next guy first.. sorry
2007-02-20 05:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by gregory_usa83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow talk about crazy. I feel the same way in my relationship. The novelty is wearing off. It'll always be that way honestly, so stick with it and try and get through it becuase the novelty will always wear off but the love won't.
2007-02-20 05:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by sweeter than you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of in a similar situation as well. It's like he don't call me like he use to, also we don't go out like we use to. I know he works alot, but still I should be a number one priority in his life. Sometime I want to just leave but I am in love with him, also I don't want to waste my tim. Because life is too short to be playing around with someone who don't wanna be with you. Also sit down and ask her those guestion. Let her know how you feel.
2007-02-20 05:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋