Pleaz help!! I am really concerned?

Question

I am in a relat. 4 mthns both have said how we love each other and how nuttin could change how much we luv each other...yesterday afternoon she gets invited ovr to one of her friends house who happens to be a guy to drink the guy is also known to b horny at times...however we love each other so much and we share each others trust ...I Ask her later that day how it was, she dint end up goin, from then on I get one word answers, ask her what is wrong she says she is stressed and in a bad mood. We tell each other we love each other and then leave, today it was clear to me that she didnt want to be with me, I asked her whats wrong and if it had to do with me and she said NO she left skul citing "personal issues" want to believe that but maybe it was jus an excuse and then she left me with a not very convincing "love u", I want to help, and I am concerned for her!! and I sure as hell dnt want it to end! do you think it could b family issues (that cause her to avoid her bf) or smthn else?

Answer 1

Hard to say without knowing the situation, but it could be she did go over to they guys house and drank and they ended up either have consensual sex or she was raped, both of which she would be to ashamed to talk to you about and might traumatize her enough to get upset enough to go home for "personal reasons" from school.

Best thing to do is send her a card letting her know you care and you are there for her is she ever wants to talk about it, then give her some space.

Answer 2

Hopefully that trust between you hasn't been broken. If she did go, she might be telling you she didn't to avoid talking about it. If something happened between them while she was there, she might be avoiding you because of it. Or if she didn't do anything but this guy friend tried to make advances at her, she just might feel uncomfortable talking about it. Let her know that you are there for her and that it's ok to talk to you about what's upsetting her and be patient.