I more or less want to get it off my chest but..... if something happened I sure would'nt complain!
2007-02-20 05:44:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wtf? Why would you even enter marriage anyway if you were planning on having crushes on people? Theres no way you should say anything. It would totally destroy your marriage and getting out of the marriage is a lot harder to get out of then it wa to get into. If something is wrong with your marriage maybe you should spend more time fixing it instead of having crushes on other people.
2007-02-20 05:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if, you don't mind if your spouse did the same well go for it. Maybe this will be the maniac that will destroy the marriage you have built with your someone who loves you. Not to mention give you an STD or HIV/AIDS. Honey anyone can cheat but integrity now that's what is difficult for many and attained by a few.If you love your spouse then, is a few moments of pleasure worth, risking your marriage. With over fifty percent of marriages resulting in divorce why mess up a good thing. Try forcing your self to think about something else. Avoid this co-worker when possible, meaning don't stick around just so you can flirt. No inappropriate conversation. Learn to be civil you don't have to run like it's the plague. Its hard to fight physical chemistry, but you choose to marry so try and remember why you love your spouse and not create issues about why you dont right now.
2007-02-20 14:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by Elle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For goodness sake, get your hormones under control. I have had to watch a situation like this that evolved at work and it is both nauseating and frightening. Both of these people are married and when it hits the fan it will be incredibly ugly. Two years ago I reported them kissing on company property and was called a liar(I had a witness). I am working in a ticking timebomb because either one of their spouses is likely to walk in and go postal. Please remember that if you decide to do something it affects so many more people than just you and this person.
2007-02-20 13:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by nerfherder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say something to the crush or to your spouse?
to your spouse yes.marriage could use some work.
if to the crush which i think you mean since you say you would mind something coming of it
ARE YOU CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!
talk to you spouse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
something IS wrong with the marriage and possibly you if you are willing to hurt the person you vowed to love and care for and protect against all harm.
How cruel can you be?
Cause the spouse ALWAYS finds out sooner or later.
And oh my if you have kids you will destroying more
then one persons life,heart,and trust in you.
YOU NEED a swift kick in the pants and sever counseling and TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE!
How would feel if your spouse was messing around?
And if you say anything other than it would hurt then you need to rethink your marriage altogether and TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE they deserve to know what is going on.
2007-02-20 13:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by southernbell_1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should grow up and recognize your responsibility to your spouse. Saying something to your co-worker will not only make it an uncomfortable workspace, it will also make you look like a selfish person bc you are already married.
2007-02-20 13:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Keep it to yourself. I have a friend that was married & cheated on her husband & guess what she's doing now??Having endless relationships w/losers. My friend always tells me that she wishes she never cheated on her husband because the guys that she's dating now r losers. Now her "ex" is happily married again to someone else & they just had a baby. My friend feels pretty rotten about it now but - she cheated & now she has to deal with the consequences- forever.
2007-02-20 13:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by A Smart Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it off your chest by confessing to your spouse and see if you would still be happy at what will happen !!
seriously...suppress it and forget about it. you are old enough to know that a crush is only an admiration and it will eventually fade.
2007-02-20 13:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by babytalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably just insecure right now and tryin to get out of the phunk you get when your in a relationship a long time. Keep it to yourself and hopefully it will pass. If not, try and spice up you marraige.
2007-02-20 13:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by sweeter than you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dilemma is this: Are you truly happy in your marriage? I can understand looking w/ the EYES only....but you shouldn't say anything to anyone except for your therapist.
2007-02-20 13:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by leecarh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yah sure tell the person you have a crush and then have a big affair that will cost you your marriage, your home, your reputation and considerable money.
Go for it!
2007-02-20 13:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋