My finace cheated on me over a year and a half ago and he tells me almost everyday that he is sorry and he regrets it. Should I believe him? I mean we get along great and really don't have any problems. I think I am just scared he might do it ahain but I honestly don't think he will. Is he really sorry???
2007-02-20 05:41:50 · 14 answers · asked by Sammy G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i really dont know about saying it every day that sounds a little fishy to me....i mean if he did it and you forgave him then get on with you lives leave it in the past..
good luck
2007-02-20 05:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ttech 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly a year and a half goes a long way in a relationship. If he was not interested he would not have stayed and you would have felt it. It is hard to cheat and be cool, besides he is ONLY your fiance, so he can still leave. It's up to you to let it go, believe him and enjoy your life, there is no guarantees if he will or will not do it again; or you can just sit and worry about it and it will happen becuse that is what you expect.
Remember, if you tell him you trust him and show him you do and be easy to talk to and even if he is done something wrong you listen and laugh like its no life and death life drama, he will learn to come tell you without any fears and you will be his best friend. Men are more loyal to their friends than to the women in their life.
I think he is really sorry, otherwise you would have felt it.
2007-02-20 05:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance cheated on you over a year and a half ago?
He's still apologizing and you're still with him?
I think you need to let it go and let him know that you accept his apology.
He probably keeps on saying that he's sorry because he's never heard from your lips that you accept his apology.
He only hears that you still doubt him and that you're scared he'll do it again.
Stop torturing yourself. If you can't get over it, then it's time you called off the engagement before you live in a life of doubt and fear with him and in turn making him feel like he can't be trusted or be ever completely loved because of his infidelity.
Let "it" go or let him go. It's that simple.
You aren't obligated to stay with him, and neither is he. If he feels like he needs to be forgiven then give it to him. If you need to feel that peace that he won't ever cheat on you again, let that honest feeling that he won't be in the focus.
Don't worry about being alone and having to start dating all over again and then risk being cheated on again...
You won't be lonely forever, and there are guys out there who won't ever cheat.
It's up to you if you want to be continue and forgive and stop doubting.
OR
It's up to you if you want to end the engagement.
Those are your two options.
2007-02-20 05:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by Querida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight he's been in the doghouse for a year and a half. Cheating is wrong but you're just being sadistic by doing that to him. Either forgive him and let it go or break up with him already!!!
2007-02-20 05:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person is different and no one can tell you what is in your boyfriend's head or heart. So while this may not be the answer you're looking for, the only thing you can do is go with your instinct.
2007-02-20 05:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by momacita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't believe him then u have a big problem. Does he seem sincere to you. Or do you think he is just trying to cover up another affair?
2007-02-20 05:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by sweeter than you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought I jsut answered this post? I say leave him. You do not really trust him if you have to ask questions.
2007-02-20 05:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by marquella_la_nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyone can be sorry, the question is will you really be able to have trust in him?
if so then go for it, but if you don't trust him then you need to move on
2007-02-20 05:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by randini692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow don't be ignorant with your own life. he might be sorry but always remember sorry is just a word it doesn't change anything. and he'll say sorry everytime he does it.
2007-02-20 05:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by destiney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, I answered your other question, I could never trust him after he cheated.
2007-02-20 05:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋