can any one give me words of incouragement for a christian who is down on her faith and is just feeling like there is no god, and that she is not worth being my girlfreind, and that she will drag me down with her. PLEASE!
2007-02-20 05:38:35 · 18 answers · asked by a_word_of_praise 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Let her discover her own religious beliefs on her own without trying to convince her your way is right. Not everyone needs to believe in Jesus or be a Christian. For some, the belief that there is no G-d is what works best for them. Let her go her own way, and you believe what you want to believe. No one like a pushy Christian.
2007-02-20 06:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Episco 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In all my life, and in my experience, those who have said such things to me, or to others, were either busy sinning, or had decided to take that course in life. If you think about it, is not this the only reason why you would say such a thing to someone else? It is hard to imagine.
At any rate, experiences are there for a reason, but they do not necessarily prove anything. The question cannot be answered specifically without specifically knowing what is causing her to backslide (or to contemplate it). In general, I have found that the best thing to do is to take a stand on the Word of God. This usually has a profound effect, they usually take off their mask and show their true selves.
What this does is make it much harder for them to live their lives in an evil way, so it may make them very angry, and consequently they may take it out on everyone around them, or around you, and try to make you look like the bad guy. If they are a sincere Christian, but weak, then your stand will give them courage to make a stand too. (Sometimes fear will keep them from going through with coming back to God.)
I believe that you will not turn them around unless that is what they want in the first place, for someone to help lead them back to God. If they do not want this, then you are in for disappointment. If they do want this, then you just have to take it one step at a time. Lead her from where she is now, to God. Whatever the case is, it is her choice.
Your goal ought to be to lovingly lead her back to God the best that you can, regardless of the consequences, even if it means losing her forever. No one wants to hear that, I know, but it is the right thing.
2007-02-20 14:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by Shawn D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Speak no words. Instead, take her to a place where you can feel the Holy Spirit. This could be a church, a shrine, even a place in nature. Sit in silence, unless the Holy Spirit gives you words to speak.
As to anyone "dragging you down"....that can only happen if you allow it. Become strong through prayer, asking for help. It will come. When you call to God, He always hears you.
Peace.
2007-02-20 13:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by KCBA 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well we know that would be classified as a "care" and the Bible says "Cast all your cares on Him becaue He cares for you". Nothing says cast just some of your cares, but all of them. The Bible also says "Trust in the Lord with ALL of your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding (of the situation), but in ALL your ways acknowledge (trust, believe, depend) on Him and he will make your path straight (usually through wisdom).
The Bible is a promise and His promises did not end when Paul or Peter or John died.
Pray fervantly and make your request and cares known to God!
Stake your claim, the enemy knows he is defeated already, he just hopes that you don't know!
2007-02-20 13:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a self-esteem issue more than a religious one, sweetie. She may need to go to a doctor for clinical depression.
If she's warning you that she will drag you down with her, this is a clear sign of depression.
It IS a medically treatable illness and nothing to be ashamed of.. I'd talk to her about that instead.
2007-02-20 13:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by Kallan 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Everyone goes through struggles in their life and people always try to find the answer for it. Noone can drag you down but you. You can either just give her mental support and leave it at that. Whatever she is going through she needs to find the answer on her own. NOone can do that for her but herself. Just be there for her.
2007-02-20 13:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by daisy322_98 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As Jesus Christ said to his disciple, "Let the dead bury the dead."
My advice is not for your girlfriend, but for you. I think your girlfriend wants to break up with you, and is using a lack of faith as an excuse.
Jesus also said, "A man cannot serve two masters. He will love one and despise the other." Do not make your girlfriend your religion or you god. You have but one master... Jesus Christ.
Peace, and God Bless.
2007-02-20 13:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I will pray for your girlfriend. She sounds like she is going through a really hard time in her life. The best thing that can be done is to support her and pray for her.
2007-02-20 13:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by Laura H 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can anything ever separate us from Christ love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or are hungry or cold or in danger. For your sake we are killed every day, we are being slaughter ed like sheep. No, desite all these things , overwhelming victory is ours through Christ who loved us, And I am convinced that nothing can seperate us from his love
Rom 9:35-39
2007-02-20 13:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by TULSA 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
God created us perfect in His image... he does not make 'junk'... and He has promised that He will never leave us... when we feel far from Him, it is us who have moved and we only need to seek Him more fully... Praying together will help as well!
2007-02-20 13:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by livinintheword † 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋