I was 16 when I first lived by myself as I came out of care.
How old were you when you left home,
Did you resent having to fend for yourself ?
2007-02-20 05:33:52 · 27 answers · asked by Elle J Morgan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was 16 also and it was hard and I wanted to move back home and be looked after again but I never...it took a while to get used to being an adult.
2007-02-23 10:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great Question - the first time I left home was at 16..and then thought I was grown up. I left my home town at age 17 and again thought - NOW I am grown up.
Youth/Inexperience did leave me a little craving the security of familial life BUT a normal part of adolesence is to want to go out and explore/experience etc so this drive was stronger at the time..
I am 31 later this year and now having a 2 year old daughter of my own and NOW feel grown up and out in the big wide world! For the first time I realise first hand the pain/trials/tribulations my own parents endured to raise me and appreciate them more than ever before. As they are much older now and nearing the end of their lives I feel responsible for caring for both the older and younger generations..which definately wakes one up to what real adult hood is like..
Sorry to hear that you were on your own completely from 16 - it is not an easy age anyway but I imagine that it was especially difficult (and at times impossible) to be so alone so young.. You should be so so proud of how far you have come and cut yourself some slack too..anyone would have resented being left to fend for themselves at 16. It is way way too young.
All the best for the future. x
2007-02-20 07:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I first left home at 19 and no, i didn't resent having to fend for myself.
It was great to leave home and have my own independence. I could go out and come back whenever i wanted, eat what i liked and not be bossed around or told off for anything.
I admit, it's hard to start off with but then as you grow in confidence, the more you enjoy being out in the big wide world. Not all play play though, a lot of work too.
2007-02-20 05:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by stephanie b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 38 and have never been on my own, but want to. I am epilepsy. It's been the hardest since '95. I hope that I can get a beter job this year. Stress has been causing so many seizures for the last 12 years. For the last 2 1/2 years, Depakote has caused me a lot of trouble. I hope that I acquire my independence by June.
2007-02-28 01:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was locked out of my mum's house when I was 13, I ran away so she couldn't put me in Care. I resented my mum a lot at that time but survival needs took over - so I just got on with what I needed to do & found some nice KIND people to help me. I loved sewing so I did that instead of going to school! I guess I was lucky... Then later I took a qualification so I could make a living doing what I enjoyed... My mum still prattles on about how much better she is, I'm still regarded as the baddie, but hey! life's too short to waste time on trying to change what happened. I believe it all happened for a reason- something wiser than me put me through that test...
2007-02-22 02:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I left home at 17, but I'd been living in the 'big wide world' since I was 13, when my father went to prison.
I've never resented having to fend for myself, I find it hard to trust people and would never want to rely or depend on people.
2007-02-20 05:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I finally moved out when I was 25. I had lived at a dorm in college for a few years before that, but I was still financially dependent on my parents. I realized I was in the "big wide world" when responsibilities started to come before fun. I have a job, an apartment, and my own life. It's a lot of wonderful freedom, but sometimes the responsibilities come with a lot of stress and pressure. My advice is: don't move out until you have a good job and are mentally ready.
2007-02-20 05:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sophie832 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me just say that i moved out of my parent's house when i was 17 and it was the best thing i ever did for myself and them for that matter. At first there was plenty of resentment towards them and not being the "best parents" but i soon became allot less argumentative and disrespectful towards them. Now they're my best friends. I feel my head is ahead of the game for people my age now, i have allot more life experiences than others my age, I've began to learn who i really am and where i am going. When you're on your own, that's it, you're on your own so I'm sure you've made plenty of mistakes and great moves in your time... just continue now with all the experiences you've had and live and learn, teach others and be positive. If there are ghosts from your past that are haunting you... attack them, move on and start being very confident for you!
2007-02-20 05:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by hugabug 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I thought it was when i left school and started college when i was 16 but looking back now i was still 'protected' when i was in school and college as people are guiding you 24/7. Since leaving and havng a job (about 17 or 18) things changed i realised this is it - the big wide world.
2007-02-20 08:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by glam123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got kicked out when I was 14, went into care and ran away, stayed with mates and ended up in my bf's garage, got a council bedsit and was totally scared, I got pregnant at 17 and my daughter is now a air hostess. I also have three other children and a third husband, i am also doing a degree in uni. Life can pull you down, but if you want a life don't let it. x
2007-02-23 12:00:42 · answer #10 · answered by squawinpants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋