My 6 year old daughter was sexually abused by her 14 year old uncle last year, and we heard today that the crown prosecution is going to take the case on Im just looking for some advise on how to deal with this as my daughter will have to be cross examined via a tv link into the court. What kind of support can I as a mum can I provide her with, as when she has been video interviewed in the past it has caused her major trauma any advice greatfully appreciated
2007-02-20 05:27:55 · 5 answers · asked by Spunky 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
The police child protection unit who are dealing should be advising you on this matter and will be liasing with the socail services who again should help you.
2007-02-20 21:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by frankturk50 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sympathise with you and your daughter God bless her, I was abused by my father from the ages of 4 to 12 he only got 3 years and he'd also abused my 2 sisters and brother, but because he pleaded guilty he received a lenient sentence only served 18 month though. Sucks i know however this was years ago i hope they give him years and years for you but now a days they want to rehabilitate sex offenders and put them on programmes in hostels it stinks,he will probably get off lightly so be prepared. However for your poor daughter the emotional scars will stay with her for all her life I should imagine,just always tell her you love her which i'm sure you do anyway reassure her constantly how proud you are of her and let her know she is brave and doing the right thing. Hey your her mom the most important person in the world to her i'm sure you will do a great job and be there for her however she needs good luck and god bless you too. When this animal gets convicted and you are moving on go to a solicitors and see about compensation for your daughter this will not be satisfactory to all the pain you have all suffered especially your child but in years to come when she is 18 it is something to help her have a decent start in adult life she could be entitled to anything from 13 thousand pound, sorry if this offends me putting that in i know last thing on your mind right now but a lot of people don't even know they are entitled to it, hope i have helped even if only little good luck for future :)
2007-02-28 09:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear you and your daughter are going through this awful situation.
I myself went through this in November with my 10yr old daughter,and it is'nt easy is it.
Be strong for your daughter this will take some of her fear away as she will feel your strength and love.
Nearer the court date someone from the N.S.P.C.C will visit and they will take you on a tour of the court etc ,they are very pleasant and so are the court staff.
I won't lie to you it was the hardest thing i have ever been through,as your 14yr old brother's defence will do whatever it takes to get him out of it.
They will paint a picture that makes you and your daughter look horrible ,but be strong and hand on in there.
When win or lose its all over try to put it behind you and move on with life,the more you feel it the harder it will be for your daughter.
Good Luck and i send my heartfelt wishes to you and your daughter.
2007-02-25 18:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by Tony 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will have to get her into some kind of support group. I assume they have something like that where you live. England I am guessing. It is tramatic to put her thru something like that, because the prosecution will try to make it look like it was her fault. They ask her all kind's of personal question's and they can be brutall, rude, and mean. She is going to need counciling if she is going to get a handle on what happened to her. And don't for even one minute let her think it was her fault.
2007-02-28 02:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by cprucka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that a very caring loving attitude and extreme patience is used. She will only be asked questions that relate to 'what happened'. Its for the you to encourage her to say the truth. Its the hardest thing ever with kids to explain why and the wrongs. Suggest you do not influence her in any way, just make her as calm as possible. Any influence will be seen as provocative. I do wish you all the best
2007-02-21 12:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by david g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋