This morning my Dad found out that his only niece was getting married for the second time and he has not been ask to go.
When she was little my Dad treated her as his daughter as her real Dad wasn't around, and he worship the ground she walks on. When her first married broke up my Dad expressed concern about her new partner(like most Dad like figures do) but in fairness gave him a chance.
Her mother, my dad's sister died a few years ago and we all think that his other sister has something to do with the fact my dad hasn't been intivted , yet all her friends have.
What do you think I should do?
2007-02-20 05:24:17 · 19 answers · asked by big k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It wasn't a mistake, there was no intivte of any of us and we have done nothing to upset her. My daughter is her god child and even she hasn't been ask. I understand its her day but my dad is a good man and loves her very much and it's upset me to see him been treated in such a nasty way.
2007-02-20 05:41:16 · update #1
It is my business and it isn't a small wedding. It is in a very large place and money is not a problem with them. I don't want to make things worst but we aren't a large family and my dad should have been asked.
2007-02-20 05:54:47 · update #2
I can't think of an answer for you. I feel your pain. If it was me, I'd say to my dad "her loss". We'll have a better day spending it together without that lot". Then I'd go out with my dad and have a bloody good laugh.
Your dad will feel it though, he'll be hurt inside and try not to show it. I don't know how you can change that except, tell him how much YOU love him. At least when he gets a bit down, he can focus on what you said to him.
I'm sorry your dad is hurt. My love and hugs go out to you both.
2007-02-20 05:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Curious39 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This might be a crazy question...but are you sure?
Has the bride told people isn't isn't inviting him? Or are we assuming he isn't invted because he has yet to get an invite? If it's the second, I'd wait a bit. I have 2 friends who live within a mile of each other, but one got her invite 2 days later than the other, even though I sent them all out at the same time. Maybe the address was wrong or something as well. My fiance's cousin never recieved her's because we put I-D on the invite by mistake instead of 1-D, we had to send another & it took over a month before we got the returned invite in the mail.
If we are 100% sure there has been no invite, it doesn't hurt to ask why. Maybe their are space restrictions & she figures if he is invite she also has to invite several others in the family. If she has just chosen not to have him there I'm sorry, it does sound like he's obviously cared for her alot through the years. Some people just to strange things sometime. The best thing you can do though is talk to her. Find out if something has been said or done to offend the couple that maybe no one realizes happened. It could be something very minor or it could just be that they have no space for people if it's a smaller wedding.
Either way, try to make some contact and see if everything is alright. But at the end of the day, if she has just for whatever reason chosen to block people out of her life or is unwilling to explain why, be the bigger person here. Don't be demanding or rude, not that you would, but just let it go. It may hurt, but acting out or saying things would only make matters worse.
2007-02-20 05:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by layla983 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure your facts are absolutely accurate as in friends etc are invited you are not going to rest until the question Why? is asked. Depending on the age of your dad it really should be him that speaks to his niece and asks if she thinks he has done something to offend her. If your father is older and this could be upsetting for him you could do it on his behalf. Try and not go in angry but just explain your dad is hurt and you can't think of any reason she hasn't been in touch with regard to the wedding. It could be a misunderstanding that is easily cleared up and if anyone as in the sister you refer to has told his niece something regarding your father then it is best you clear the air now. Trust all works out well for your dad.
2007-02-20 05:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ann Landers used to say MYOB -- mind your own business. If your Dad wants to restore his relationship with this young woman, he should do so. You can't probably do any more that sit with your dad and help him sort out his feelings -- help him put together his strategy about how he will approach his niece.
If there is another auntie getting into the mix, the last thing this family needs is more people getting involved in the controversies.
2007-02-20 05:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by snickersmommie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know the answer but I really do sympathise.
My only niece did not invite me to her wedding and I have never forgiven her. She was bridesmaid at my wedding (because I promised her), I took her to Summer Balls, on holiday abroad, out for meals etc. She was the daughter that I (admitedly by choice) did not have. For me she is now dead and I have cut her out of my will.
I have just read your additions. It sounds more and more like the situation I was in. Basically my niece, my sister and her husband would not say it but felt that myself, my husband and my parents were just not posh enough for their big do. It hurts like hell and I wish you and your dad didn't have to go through it.
2007-02-20 06:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by Ranchstar 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would call her and find out why your dad wasn't invited, is something going on with the other sister and your dad that she wants to be a control hog on it
2007-02-20 05:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not really YOUR place to do anything. In fact it has nothing to do with you. Its between your dad and his niece. Its not your place to judge her because he wasn't invited and her friends were. Stay out of it, before it becomes and even bigger situation.
2007-02-20 05:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she only wants a small wedding?
Maybe he didn't get the invite yet?
Maybe its just a rumor that someone is saying to get people worked up?
If you are close to her and see her often bring it up.
2007-02-20 05:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really honestly, it is HER wedding, and if they have chosen not to invite certain people then you have to respect that. Just because it is a wedding it does not mean that she has to invite you just because you are family. I am not inviting any of my cousins to my wedding, they are family, they understand, you should try to understand too.
2007-02-20 21:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to the neice and try to find out why. But bottom-line, its sad - but not really your business. Maybe your dad can confront the neice if he wants.
2007-02-20 05:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by KATHY A 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋