I don't know where to start. I was walking one day with my daughter in my apartment complexes, and this man walks up to me and asks for my number. We went out on a date and formed a friendship. After two months, we officially started seeing one another. This man turned out to be wonderful. He treats me like a princess and he is in love with both my daughter and me. The problem with our relationship is that he is very quiet. He is going through depression, but he says that he has always been shy. Sometimes, it's very hard to talk to him. He doesn't get irritable, but he just can't seem to find the words to say. Last week, he started antidepressant medications and he is going to start therapy. Our relationship is very routine, and we are somewhat limited to what we can do due to my physical disability. He has been wonderful to my daughter and me, but he is also a little clingy. He is not controlling by the way. He gives me the freedom to do whatever I want.
2007-02-20 05:11:48 · 7 answers · asked by aloha_kisses2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have been together for one year. I'm in love with him, but it hurts me sometimes to see him so sad. He has a lot of issues, but I don't think I should leave him. He had a bad childhood, and he has trouble accepting his past. He has a lot of guilt from the past; consequently, his self esteem is shot. What can I do? I want to support him, but it hurts me to see him so sad at times. My daughter just loves the heck out of him, and he definitely loves her. He is such a gentle spirit, but I'm so confused. He also doesn't really have any friends or hobbies. He works full-time and goes to school part time, so he doesn't have much time to do anything. I feel like he has made me the center of his world, which is good but bad in many ways. He is such a pushover. He is almost too nice to people, and I think it hurts him.
2007-02-20 05:12:13 · update #1
He does have a good relationship with his sister, but his brother never calls either him or his sister. His mom passed away in October and she was very mean toward him his entire life. His dad passed away a couple of years ago. He has a very small family, so it's tough for him.
2007-02-20 05:13:06 · update #2
Are you with him out of guilt or love? When you are in love with someone, it should bring out the best in you. Can you see yourself married to this man?
Before things progress further, seek therapy and do what is best for your and your daughter.
Good luck.
2007-02-20 05:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tell you that sounds tough.
what i would do is tell him to forget his past and live in the present because life is hard for everyone and they get over it. Don't use those exact words but try around those lines.
Try to tell him it is not only hard on him, but on your family to go through this and you two could have a great life if these problems go away. I know for some people it is harder but sometimes all they need is to be reminded that, that was the past.
hope this gets worked out and you can get happy
2007-02-20 05:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I am so sorry about what you two are going through. The thing I really suggest you to do is pray, because prayer change things. I think the both of you two should pray together. Also read Psalm 23 chapter, that is in the Holy Bible.
2007-02-20 05:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to seek counseling, wait until he has been going for awhile to see if things improve. If he has a good therapist, it can make all the difference in the world. It could really turn his life around if he works through his issues.
2007-02-20 05:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look dear i know it's hard feelings.. that u want to help him but u can't... but if u want u can...
he must to have sometime for himself.. i believe everyone have hobbies if not.. he didn't discover it yet...
u and your daughters must to go for Holiday to somewhere.. maybe he is sad but i believe he can feel happy if he find himself want to.
let him feel he is important and can chose.. i know how hard his past.. but u must to convene him past is past... and the future in our hand... engorge him let him feel that u can't be happy without him...
i wish he will get better after therapy we will pray for him.... God bless
2007-02-20 05:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I dated someone who was always depressed. In your situation, you should wait and see if his depression stops after his "treatment".
2007-02-20 05:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by darkskinnedxbeauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not...Some people opt for"depression"..... get the hell out while you are still sane
2007-02-20 05:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋