i want to keep him as a friend but i dont have any feelings for him the way he has for me. he has told me that on more than one occiasion that he loves me and i have told him not to say that. so can someone please help me out with this
2007-02-20 05:11:31 · 12 answers · asked by padra29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can't.
either you have to accept that he feels that way, and he has to accept your feelings, or just cut it off completely.
not the most pleasing answer, but it is the truth
2007-02-20 05:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by randini692000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be clear and honest with him.Tell him you want him as a friend and only a friend.And you want him to stop trying to push you into more.And if he can not handle the "just friends"thing best to just stop seeing him all together.It will be easier for you and make it better on him so he can move on.But the ego is not the problem since he keeps saying he loves you.The problem is either two things...1 you are not being upfront and clear without any question you want nothing romantic from him.
or
2...He is just pushy,never gonna accept while you are in his life that he can not win you over to be his girlfriend,can not handle the just friends thing.
so just be honest and stop trying to break it to him nicely.
You dint have to be cruel to be honest.Be honest and clear.Do not say anything about loving him in a certain way but not that way.Do not say the word feel or love .So wont be any way he can misunderstand.Say you want friendship/buds and that is ALL.And if he can not handle that then you need for him move on.Because he is making you uncomfortable.
Remember when you are sure what you want be 100% honest and clear.
2007-02-20 13:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by southernbell_1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you consider him your friend, you have to talk to him, and explain to him that he needs to stop telling you those things. Just be nice and tell him that you are not interested in a relation, and that you feel uncomfortable with him telling you all those things.
After that, try not to be with him alone. If you need to meet him, make sure there is always at least one more person there. And try not to get too much attention towards him so he doesn’t think you like him in nay way more than a friend.
On the other hand, whenever you talk to him, make sure you treat him good, and let him know how good of a friend he is to you.
After that, it is up to him to decide how to act. He must understand you consider him your friend, but nothing else. And if he doesn’t get it right, then it is going to be his own fault the fact that he will loose you also as a good friend.
Life sucks sometimes... many times, and we all must accept it when things are not the way we want. Don’t sacrifice yourself for him. Just let him know your feelings, and let him deal with it. Nothing else you can do.
2007-02-20 13:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you as more than a friend, don't worry about his ego. Either way he'll be let down and not really want to go back to being your friend. Once it reaches the 'feelings' stage, there really is no turning back.
2007-02-20 13:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him,if it causes problems you cant help it but not being honest with him is stringing him along he thinks he still may have a chance,explain to him you want the friendship that the two of you share but dont want to make him think there is any chance for nothing more that if the two of you got involved it could ruin your relationship as friends and you really just want to stay friends
2007-02-20 13:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never seen it happen but that doesn't mean it isn't possible It really depends more on him than you though .
Once you throw out the conditions your willing to live with in the relationship (freinds etc) then the rest is up to him - Not you - good luck
2007-02-20 13:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you do not have romantic feelings for him, that you only like him as a friend. If he continues to say that he loves you, tell him that you're sorry but that you have made your feelings clear to him and that you can no longer be friends.
2007-02-20 13:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jasper213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how u make clear to a man that u have no interest in him without hurting his ego
You can't sorry.
2007-02-20 13:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him! Tell him you only like him as a friend and you're maybe not looking for a relationship right now.
2007-02-20 13:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some beers and fart when you're around him! That way you'll be just like one of the guys!
2007-02-20 13:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by CurlyLocks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋