she is 20 month old and is constantly doing this high pitch squeal, along with screaming mammy over and over, she is driving me insane and really trying my patience. my older daughter is so sick of her hitting and screetching to get attention, plz help us find a soultion !!
2007-02-20 05:01:56 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Have your doctor check her hearing. If she has difficulty hearing, she may be screaming because that's all she can hear. If she is either very quiet or screaming with no normal vocal levels in between, she may be hearing impaired.
Stand behind her and call her name quietly and then normally. See if she reacts. If she does not react, try yelling her name. If she only responds to the shout, she may have hearing difficulties.
If her hearing is normal, try a few good smacks on her butt.
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2007-02-20 05:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by Me 3 · 5⤊ 3⤋
20 months is old enough to know the word "Stop".
IF there is pain involved with the scream -" I've just shut my hand in the car door" kind of screaming, that is different.
But choice-screaming has to be stopped with calmness and no panic. She may be enjoying the panic and craziness that you are exhibiting. Ssssooooooo. . .
Can you put the girl in a safe crib or play pen and then leave the room with her sister? And stay away for the duration of the screaming? When she stops come in again and thank her for not screaming, and give her some good attention. Reading a book with her or helping with a puzzle. Or going outside. If the screaming begins, put her in that crib again.
A time or 2 or 3 should do it. May take a couple of days however. Depends on how stubborn she is.
2007-02-20 05:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it. The more you let her see that it's getting your attention, the more she will do it. If you make a conscious decision to ignore her while she is doing it she'll see that it doesn't have the desired effect any longer. Tell her that if she screams mummy won't play with her. Tell her that if she doesn't scream mummy will play. She'll get the message although it might take a few days and some patience. I had this with my daughter and whining. It worked eventually although I was screaming inside. The worst thing you can do is start shouting "stop screaming/whining" that just makes it worse. I do sympathise and hope you get through it ok.
2007-02-20 06:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine this is driving you and your elder daughter 'mad'. As a mature mother I suggest as she is old enough to gently lift her (when in the house) up, and place her on floor (safe area) and turn your back to her or if able walk away from her, telling her when she stops you will give her a cuddle. hard at first but it will work with your treatment being continuous. If you are out and about tell her after the screaming begins that she is going to have the same treatment when you get home. Hard as it is you are going to have to ignore her whilst this continues. Again when out just 'stop' walking and do not procede or lift her or anything other than above until she stopsscreaming. Perseverance from you is the key issue here. Good Luck. By the way hitting out by this toddler would and should receive the same treatment. She will stop.
2007-02-20 05:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I htink you answered it in your question. If she is screaming ot get attention. give her the attention she needs or keep her busy or preoccupied before she starts up with the screaming. and remeber after the terrible twos comes the horrific threes.
I can't help but to smile and laugh when my little one tries my patience and nerves.
I just love her so much. and I too was the same way so my father keeps reminding me.
She is so mischievious the other day she spilled milk all over the frigde and floor. I was right there but she was tooo quick for me.
YOu see she was impatient with me I was nto preparing her bottle fast enough and she wanted to help me along.
I chuckled cleaned it up I don't get upset with her so i took her for a long car drive so that i could have her strapped in some where for a little while. Until I was ready to deal with her boundless energy again.
THe reason in the end was that she was sleepy and fighting it so she was getting out of hand and difficult.
There is always a reason for acting up we have to find out what it is and fix it.
2007-02-20 05:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by doll 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it is what I would do. I've had 5 kids and any tantrums they had were ignored. They didn't have many more. If she starts this behaviour again tell her that whens she calms down you will speak to her again and NOT before. Then STICK TO YOUR WORD and MEAN WHAT YOU SAY!! If you don't mean what you say you will be defeating the purpose. Never leave a 20 month old child alone in a room where you cannot see them.
2007-02-24 02:16:13 · answer #6 · answered by wise old owl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 month olds are in the technique of 'reducing their enamel' with a view to communicate. She is pushing her barriers to confirm the place it gets her and if she will administration mommy with it, she'll do it! mom might desire to as we communicate eliminate the youngster from everywhere she's appearing up and by no potential ever supply in to the tantrum (which it relatively is). ultimately the youngster will understand mom potential corporation and the tantrums will stop. Please do no longer use actual violence on the youngster. That basically shows mom is uncontrolled. a company NO and removing, achieved adequate cases, gets the message throughout the time of without resorting to marvelous the youngster.
2016-10-02 11:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter used to do it as well thank god she is 9 now and just cheeks me like an 16 year old lol. my daughter used to do it in the shops i was so angry that i fell on the floor and started to scream as well that did shut her up. try just ignoring her if she is doing it when she wont something then when she is quiet and good tell her what i good girl she is being and would she like to play a game. good luck
2007-02-22 00:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by sarah xxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your doctor to rule out any problem. If everything is fine just ignore it. Let her screem as long as she wants. But make sure that everybody who is around do the same. Complete ignorance of is needed.
It will be hard. She might do it for couple of hours without stoping but should, eventually, stop.
Good luck
2007-02-21 01:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by delta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi id put her in time out everytime she did it and tell her why you put her there she will not like that and will soon learn that its bad reward her for good behaviour but not the bad she will learn quickly that she gets no reward for screaming eg:she plays quitley with toys no screaming or paddys she gets a sticker or toffee but when she screams she gets nothing .
good luck this works with my son a treat.
2007-02-20 11:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by gunnermarie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋